No present on arrival of baby

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I work with 5 other women and I thought we always got on well. When Covid hit I started working from home and the communication decreased as I didn’t see them everyday. They still considered me part of “the gang” and would meet up when we got the chance.

when someone in the office was retiring or someone had a death we always did a collection and bought presents or flowers etc. I always contributed to the collection even when working from home, I’d do a bank transfer or drop the cash in.

I had a baby in June and I did not receive even a congratulations card from the women let alone a baby present.

AIBU with thinking that maybe it was my turn for something nice considering I give for everyone else and having a baby is a pretty special celebration. Time to move on?

YANBU. Stop contributing to collections or organising cards.

If someone says anything just say ‘I thought all that had stopped as I never received anything when I had a baby.’

Pretty shitty behaviour OP, particularly as it sounds like you're all quite friendly. Do move on though, these things are thoughtless rather than malicious and I presume you need to work with them after mat leave!

You feel how you feel. Personally, I give gifts because I want to, and I don't expect anything in return. If it's not reciprocated, that's fine. I learned a very long time ago to let all that go. I also don't consider colleagues to be friends in the truest sense of the word, so I don't overthink things like this.

When was the last time you met up?

This.

Yeah that's shit. Fuck em.

I agree

Yes, this happened/didn’t happen in June, it’s now November, time to move on.

This.

YANBU to feel hurt and to stop contributing to future collections. YABU to leave the job though! Is that what you mean by time to move on? If the job is good in other ways then this would be a silly reason for leaving.

Is it you that always organises the collections?

Are the cards/ gifts normally handed over in person? I assume they have your home address? Did any of them contact you since the baby’s birth?

Yes it would have been nice to think that at least one of your colleagues would have bothered with card/ gift etc. Well you know what to say if any other ‘collections’ are mentioned!
It is November now , so time to let this go .

If you still work from home, is it a case of out of sight out of mind maybe?

If you all work on the office and see each other on a daily basis, then yes, that's shitty.

RedCoffeeCup oh no I absolutely wouldn’t change my job because of something so trivial. I meant time to move on and accept that maybe they just forgot or felt I’m not part of the team anymore.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads no it’s one of the other girls