To ask you to tell me some good things about your significant other.

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In this world of conflict and cries of LTB let's celebrate the good ones by saying three things about our wife, husband or partner. I'll go first;

1. He takes 50% of childcare and housework and life administration without being asked.
2. He notices if I'm struggling or shattered and buys me a ticket to a gig or picks up my share of the slack.
3. He loves and physically takes care of people such as his mum, friends and our son.

I'm going to be honest your post comes across as depressing rather than uplifting. Those 3 things are basic requirements.

He tries hard.

He is a good Dad in lots of ways.

He is funny.

He is loving.

He is generous with his time.

Best thing for me = I don;t have one - I love that!

He saw me through my mother’s death, literally picking me up and scraping me off the floor when I couldn’t cope.
He also saw me through a complete mental health breakdown when I genuinely thought I would die- day by day he nursed me in ways I can only begin to imagine, while running the household and caring for our two children. Those were the 3 hardest years of our lives, that’s how long it took to bring me back to normal life. And when I had a scare a year or so ago, he proved to me he’d do it all over again if need be.

There are many moments when life is not perfect, where I need him and he’s always there, the first person I turn to, my best friend.
And now he’s unwell and I’m having to take that role. I will do so happily, because it is my turn now. But my god there are times I wish life was a bit simpler.

There are good men, there are good people. But even though they exist doesn’t mean it’s ever easy.

He does all the house admin. Sorts out remortgaging, insurance, utilities etc. I'm lazy with this stuff and would just let it all rollover and cost us thousands, he spends ages looking for deals, swapping things around.

Mine is the kindest man I've ever met, my best friend and a true gentleman. He works so hard, I trust him with my life and he really looks after me. Oh and he always comes back from the supermarket with chocolate for me.

He has shown repeatedly that I'm his priority and he's always got my back.

He's a fantastic person / dad .
He's my best friend and has my back always . He knows everything about me . He absolutely adores animals and loves that I have hundreds of hobbies . I am the most important thing in his life and he shows me this every day . He makes my soft boiled eggs and soldiers perfect every time .

He is bloody gorgeous
He makes me come like a steam train
He is the funniest person I know
I can be 100% myself with him, he is the only one I don't need to be slightly different for
He has my back 100% of the time
It's been 12 years and he is still besotted with me and I him
He is kind to everyone no matter who they are
He is so gentle with animals and children it's adorable
He can play any musical instrument he lays his hands on.
He has such a creative mind and is an amazing tattoist

He's insanely intelligent, good with money and life admin, a great dad, a good earner and doesn't take life too seriously. We laugh together a lot.
And even at 60 he's bloody gorgeous.

He always does my hot water bottle for me as I love having one but hate doing it.

Also he is very careful not to accidentally wake our toddler when he goes to work early, he only leaves about 30mins or so before DS usually wakes so wouldn’t be a problem if he did wake him but I really appreciate that DH tiptoes around the flat to make sure I get that 30mins extra in bed.

He does my tax return for me. I'm sure I could do it, but he seems to enjoy them so I'll let him carry on!

He makes me laugh nearly every day

He's supported me through depression and never given up on me.

Hes good in bed.

A good cook, and cooks for me regularly. Doesnt care if I cook or not. Gives good massages. Doesnt mind doing housework at all (I do housework but I hate it so not as dedicated with it as him)

Has always treated my DCs as his own and gets quietly happy and proud if he hears them refer to him as Dad

There for me when my Dad passed away including attending funeral abroad, took care of everything.

Kind - gives food and bedding directly to street homeless. Puts out food leftovers for the foxes. Likes animals.

Active, not boring. Fit and handsome, and still a good laugh in his 60s. Doesnt believe in prolonging arguments. Prefers to talk about it, and not avoidant in saying sorry.

He still gets on my last nerve at times, and vice versa. We are cantankerous sometimes, no person or relationship is perfect. The annoying things about him are cancelled out by the above tho and he's the 1 person who has my back 100%

He’s simply the best. 35 years in still makes me go weak at the knees with his smile. We have been through illness, deaths, work issues, raised our kids and now as grandparents love still love our life together. We put each other first.

He appreciates me, is great at fixing stuff, brilliant with kids, thinks long term and is really well respected and liked as a professional and by our friends. So lucky and don’t take anything for granted.

Fuck me the bar is low. I think the three things you have listed are the bare minimum.

Dh tells me he loves me every day.
He kisses me before he goes to work and when I get in from work.
He tells me I look beautiful.
He does all the cooking and food shopping.
He cleans the house and does the laundry.
He does diy for my mum and his mum.
He sorts out all presents for his mum, I’m happy to help if he wants my input.
He is the least misogynistic man I know.

Only three? Argh, ok.

1. He buys secret stashes of chocolate, hides them around the house and then brings them out when I am premenstrual and craving chocolate, or generally having some kind of 'I need chocolate' moment.

1. He loves organising things in the house and building IKEA type stuff and I loathe doing that.

1. He customises Sylvanian Families animals for the kids.

Yes!

But I’m assuming the OP intended her post ironically, as a way of pointing up the gendered double standards that mean men get praised immoderately for looking after their own kids, doing 50% of the running of their own households and noticing that the people they’re closest to in the world also have needs…?

When he was diagnosed with terminal cancer he never asked "Why me?".

He had half his insides removed and 10 days later was pushing his boys round the park in their double buggy.

He saw the light in every dark day.

He treats me as an equal
Doesn’t patronise me
He is my biggest cheerleader

He always puts us first.
He respects and appreciates things that are done for him.
He is funny, kind and cute,
He is a great dad.
He is really handy around the house can turn his hand to anything - love that he's my own handy man !!
I am always proud of him.

He is good at DIY and fixing things like dishwashers etc

he is a pretty hands on Dad, we share the school runs and he takes children on lots of fun adventures

He makes me laugh.
He's clever and interesting.
He does his share of the housework without asking.
He's a brilliant dad.
He loves eating the food I love cooking!

My top three are:

1. He goes out of his way to make my life easier, from shopping for my mum to getting me a hot water bottle when I’m cold.
2. He’s the funniest human I’ve ever met, makes me laugh really often
3. The biggest one- he’s the most loyal man ever; his family are always his top priority and he’s always been the safe space for all of us.

He's unbelievably clever, great in bed and brilliant with my complicated family.