Dad bought us a new computer for Christmas to replace our old laptop. I started spending a lot of time on it as DH was away (Navy). He came home and was annoyed about the time I was spending on it in the evening, even though our computer is in our open-plan living room, and I can still chat to him while on it. We argued. I said I didn't see the difference between me sitting next to him, watching rubbish on the TV that I don't want to watch and doing my puzzles and me sitting 3 ft away on the computer. He said it wasn't a good omen for our marriage. I had a sneaky suspicion that he might have a point, so I started spending less time on the computer. We take turns! I thought this was ok. We are still in the room and can chat to each other.
Then my dad, who is computer obsessed, starts saying we need another computer, that he will get us a router and we can wire the laptop up upstairs, so we can both use the system. I'm not keen, as I don't really like the idea of us spending evenings at opposite ends of the house on 2 separate computers. I said we didn't really need it. Dad kept going on about it. Last night I hear him saying to DH that he has bought us that router- he and DH have talked about it, and gone ahead and ordered it, without any discussion with me. I feel annoyed that a) noone listened when I said I didn't think we needed it , b) that DH and dad didn't discuss it with me, and now want to put wires all over the house (we don't want wireless) and c) that it is hypocritical of DH to make me feel bad for being on the computer, and then arranging it so he can be off in the bedroom on one himself! I admit, a small part of it is paranoia that DH wants his own personal system, (so that I can't see what he is doing????) although he says it is just for practical reasons, so he can check his e-mail without disturbing me (takes about 3 seconds!) He says he will not be up there all night, but I can't see the point in powering the system up and down, just to check a few e-mails when he could just use the system down here. I don't really think he is up to anything, just a bit peed off, and I let them know, which resulted in an arguement and my dad leaving in a huff, so now I am the bad guy, for being "over the top" and "going off on one" and am left feeling guilty, while DH and dad subtly imply I might have PND!!!! Am I going mad?? I am tired and stressed, haven't had a holiday for 4yrs, while DH has been all over the place (just back from a week's "training" ie skiing!) I feel like my opinion doesn't matter- I just run around cooking for everyone, cleaning, taking care of the kids, walking the dogs etc. Am I just being nasty and vindictive, or would you be annoyed that your opinion means so little? I know it is pretty trivial, but I've blown it up now! DH says we'll forget it, but now I feel guilty, like big bad paranoid control freak wife!! AAArgh!