Should I tell the new girlfriend that I have an STI?

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Keeping it brief!

My husband walked out just over a year ago and is dating a 24 year old. He only told me they’re dating yesterday although I’ve suspected for 18 months.
Just before he left a smear showed I was positive for HPV. I have no idea if he gave it to me or the other way round as it can stay dormant for years. He is aware of this but probably doesn’t give a s**t as it doesn’t affect him directly. He definitely didn’t seem to care less when I told him and we were still together. He has a tendency to “forget” anything important in mine or the kids lives so I very much doubt he has either been tested himself or told her.

Anyway should I tell her that I have an STI that he is likely to be carrying and could give her cancer?
Or is it none of my business and will only look petty if I tell her, especially as, due to her young age she is likely to be vaccinated?

YABU - don’t tell her, it’s up to him
YANBU - she should be told

My last test came back positive for HPV and I've been with husband for 12 years and never tested positive before. I spoke to doctor about it as I was confused and he said it's not a STI and can lie dormant for years (even decades) so very hard to know how and when you got it.

I wouldn't say anything if I was you. I think it will just cause drama with no real positive outcomes - it's not like she can get checked or anything beyond regular smear tests which she'd have anyway.

I doubt your motives.
Leave the matter alone. You are dying to interfere. Don't.

Nope... steer clear
It's not technically an STD. Leave it

It sounds like you've been through a truly awful time. Ignore the posters just keen to get a dig in (it is AIBU so it's inevitable whatever you post).

OP has just three posts in this thread, but you couldn't be bothered to read them? She accepted she was BU an hour ago.

She'll be having regular smear tests and will also have been vaccinated - there's no treatment and 80% of the population have it anyway, so it's not an STI.

So I wouldn't tell her. If it was something more serious I would say tell her

Just to clear up a few things….She won’t have had any smear tests yet if she’s 24 , not all women appreciate the need for smear tests and not all with have had the jab….but the hpv vaccine was initially authorised for women up to age 26 and now it’s recommended for both sexes up to age 45 . Obviously it’s best to get the vaccine before you ever have sexual contact but even if you have already been sexually active you can still benefit from getting the jab ,although you may have to pay for it if you are over a certain age.

Just an FYI,

Just because someone has been vaccinated against HPV doesn't mean they can't still get it.. I was vaccinated at 16 at school and still got it and now have yearly smears wirh follow up colposcopys as its still showing 😩🙄