Met a man at an event, went on a first date - few drinks. Was really enjoyable. Lots of chemistry and flirting. We live 1 hour and 10 minute drive away. So I travelled into city centre - 45 mins for me and 25 for him.
Speaking since then and arranged another date. He had suggested I come to his house and he will cook and we will have drinks. I said I wasn't comfortable with that at this stage, he has two dogs who he claims are unable to stay in the house alone and that he couldn't get a sitter. We had a chat and I put it out on the table that there would be no sex etc and he seemed fine with this. He agreed to collect me from city centre and my lovely friend said she would drive to get me at 11 pm so I didn't have to stay overnight. All sorted.
We have been texting normally in week then yesterday I get a message from him 'right change of plans tomorrow' he said he would instead just meet me in city centre for a few drinks. I asked if he had someone to watch dogs and he replied that he didn't but that they should be fine for a few hours. Fine.
I text today saying I wouldn't be able to get earlier than 7 pm train as I was working. He said bit late for the dogs but that's fine. He then text saying he isn't drinking and is just going to drive so he can get back to the dogs.
I asked him if he wants to just reschedule as a lot of last minute changes and it is a weekend without my daughter and I'd like to have a drink and feel we are on different vibes. He replied 'what do you mean were on different vibes' then asked if I would prefer a night out next weekend.
I am so tired and currently sat in my jammies chilling after a long day at work and honestly feel quite relieved. I just wonder if I've been really difficult? I mean what is the big deal if he drives and doesn't drink? I guess I just wanted to get a bit tipsy and let loose and it changed the vibes.
Also these dogs, I understand that dogs are a huge responsibility but I have two dogs, a child, two jobs and a full time placement for my masters and I still manage.
AIBU? I haven't replied to his latest message about next weekend as I have my daughter so will be with her. I just feel like it's all too hard work for a second date.
I'm 31, he is 33.