Just feeling frustrated.
For context, DH and I aren't a particularly conventional couple and do loads of things separately, we're not one of those couples who go everywhere together and we're both comfortable with solitude. And I was single for yonks before I met him, so I've done umpteen things alone in the past, and still do, if they're things he's not interested in.
But AIBU for feeling a bit of a lemon turning up to parties alone when we've been invited as a couple, and when people who know us as a couple are there and invariably ask where he is - simply because by his own admission he can't be bothered going?
He does this a lot. Some of these invites come from people we know originally from a hobby group I belong to - but over the years DH has become friends with them too and enjoys seeing them on the rare occasions I can actually get him to come along. There's a party tonight and yet again he's said no. I respect his wishes, but AIBU to just be inwardly feeling a bit sick of turning up to parties alone and feeling like a lemon having to make DH's excuses? He always suggests I make up some convoluted lie excuse or other, but this has been going on so long now that I don't think anyone believes it. I think they just think our marriage isn't in good shape, and feel sorry for me, and it just feels so awkward.
I know he wants to spend this evening reading and I respect that, but he gets plenty of time to read. I love reading myself and we spend a lot of time reading together, but I just feel like can't he sacrifice just one evening of reading to seeing people that like him and are disappointed not to see him? And most of all, having to cook up lies as to why he's not present so no one's feelings get hurt by the truth i.e. he couldn't be bothered? (I'm not paraphrasing BTW, that's the reason he gave me earlier.)
He's not depressed btw, although I know it sounds like it.
I've respected his wishes by not pushing him, but AIBU to privately feel a bit fed up?