To think online dating is so cut throat?!

[Carrotcake90]

I'm on Bumble and have only been on it just over a week. I've already been unmatched by 2 guys who I thought I was getting on really well with ,
I couldn't help but feel upset as I had no warning sign and took it quite personally .
I've also had someone cancel a date. It is rough out there, online dating just feels so soulless.
But I have no other way of meeting people as I am currently doing hobbies etc in RL but just haven't met anyone.
I'm not even looking for anything that serious but my god it's not good for my self esteem!
Anyone feel the same?

It is indeed, its brutal, which is why it's not to be recommended if you're feeling vulnerable. You have to approach it with the right mindset. Frankly, the fact you're upset about having been unmatched with two randoms you haven't met suggests to me you're not ready.

You have to go in with a real "don't give a fuck" mentality or it doesn't work.

The upside to the brutality is that it does allow you to weed out timewasters and dickheads pretty quickly and treat them with the same brutality, which is an opportunity you probably wouldn't be afforded in the real world.

I suggest taking a step back though and trying again when you're in a much more level-headed frame of mind.

You have a much bigger pool of people dating online so while it seems like a regular thing, proportionally there are just as many a-holes there as there would be in the wild. You just get to go through them much faster.
It's not personal. And it is fair to expect that people will be chatting with multiple connections at once so, of course, they may have been on a date with some they liked and subsequently unmatched with others or even deleted their profile altogether.
Last time I was dating online, I was extremely selective about whom I talk to and whom I chose to go on a date with. And also schedule the date within the first couple of days of chatting so as not to prolong the misery.
I met my current partner on the app and I also acquired a couple of good friends whom we didn't connect romantically but who were lovely people and we are still in touch. I find that older demographic is perhaps slightly better, I wouldn't attempt it in my 20s.