Husband is horrible with money. Has adhd and struggles greatly with managing finances and budgeting. For this reason I manage all household bills - he sends me a set amount and everything else is separate. He is in charge of paying his own car and phone bill. I have tried many things to help him budget but he is constantly in a hole of debt. In the past I have taken out interest free credit cards to balance transfer debts for him and instead of cancelling his own credit cards he just maxed them again resulting in doubling his debt as he then owed me the money for the balance transfers and the same again on his cards. After this I kind of washed my hands of trying to sort his financial messes. But he is constantly borrowing money from me here and there, not huge amounts but enough and occasionally he has missed paying me for his share of the house/bills etc. Often this is to pay his phone bill because it's been cut off. I confronted him tonight about money he had borrowed to buy workwear for a new job. The workwear didn't materialise and now he has told me he has been getting threatening letters about his car being repossessed. I honestly feel quite detached about it and feel this is not my problem to sort. He blew up at me for questioning him on it but Im putting this down to him feeling a lot of pressure. AIBU to not jump in and help? As his wife should I be taking on half of the burden? I just feel at the end of my tether and that trying to help with finances never actually works or solves the problem! He has stormed out of the house with a bag and this is another thing I can't tolerate is the extreme blowing up when I feel he is in the wrong by being dishonest about reasons for borrowing money.