How to leave a job you’ve just started?

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I felt very lucky to get the job as it was high paid development position in a corporate role. I’m 2 months in now and I have realised that this just isn’t for me. I absolutely love my manager she is the kind of manager you wish and hope for. I almost feel like I’m letting her down. But I don’t feel I fit in within the team I WFH full time so I feel very isolated I only ever speak to my manager and we have a once a week team chat where I speak with the wider rest of the team.

i feel like I’m so deep in that I don’t know how to get out. The money is really good but I just know it’s not for me.

How on earth do I get out?

Just hand in your notice - you don't owe them anything. If it really isn't right for you, just be honest with your manager about it.

Do you rely on the income? If so, get looking for something else. The fact that you're remote will hopefully make it easier to interview and find another role quickly.

Same as in any other job, you are unlikely to get qnotheone this side of Christmas tho, oh made redundant 2 weeks ago and very little out there.

Hi OP I was in this situation 2 years ago. I was just honest and bit the bullet. My manager was lovely about it. Much better to do it earlier than down the line when handing stuff over to yet another new person could be more tricky (in my line of work that’s the case anyway).

Can you start to go in? And maybe be part of the team?

Is it the WFH that's the issue but the job is good?

Thanks all, I won’t be leaving until I get another job anyway. I just feel like a failure in a sense! But I know it’s just not for me.

The thing is we hot desk and people only ever go in if they need to book a room or something. Everyone already has there friends so they will go in on a day together.

If your manager is great then give her a chance to help 'fix' this for you.

If the alternative is to leave, then you've nothing to lose. Tell her how you are finding it and see if she can suggest anything that might help.

Give her a bit of time to do that and, if there is nothing she can do, then leave in the New Year.

Look for something else and hand your notice in when the time comes, unless you can afford to leave without another source of income.

I left a job after 3 months once with nothing to go to, I was so unhappy it was affecting my mental health until I eventually had a breakdown. I should have left after 3 weeks when I realised it wasn't for me as sticking it out for a few months took me a year to recover from and hugely damaged my confidence in the long run.

It was in a school and the headmaster and SLT basically tried to make me feel like it would look really bad on my CV and tried to emotionally blackmail me to stay.

The reality was that I've just left it off my CV/Applications and it was never an issue that had any impact at all on future progression. And within a year, a dozen more staff had left that school too!

Life's too short to be unhappy. Look for something else that will be more up your street. In the meantime try and do some things for you that bring you joy and make you happy, especially social activities where you will feel less isolated.

I would definitely raise it with your manager. If I had a team member who felt like that I’d want to know, then I’d set them up with a network (online “coffee break” chats or intros and more organised time in the office). Are there other recent joiners? Be brave and get in touch with them.

Book in individual virtual 'meetings' with your team members.
WFH makes it harder to build a network but not impossible. You need to make the effort to engage with the team. Go into the office anyway. So what if some groups are in because they want to hang together, that doesn't mean you can't join them.

I'm a believer in giving a new position 6-12 months no matter what (just my opinion)