To ask for help (non emergency)

[Chickenkeev]

My brother is getting married this week. I love him, no issues between us but i'm a hermit (in the proper sense, not just 'oh, i'm a home bird'). I don't actually remember the last time i've seen someone other than my H, Dd or doctor. I had resigned myself to not going to the wedding, but H dug out a lovely dress for me this evening. And it's made me feel like it's a possibility all of a sudden? The venue couldn't be any closer unless it was in my front garden. So it's the perfect set up. But i'm scared of it. Scared of people. Scared of outside. Talk me down please wise ones, i really should go to the wedding. I really want to.

Thank you x

Just do exactly what you can manage. It's going to be so exhausting, no one will judge you even if you make it to the door just to smile at your brother, wish him luck, smush DDs face & tell her she's fab then make your way home again having done something remarkable. Fancy clothes off, safe clothes on & back to your safe place to probably sleep for a day.

Feel you on the money 😭. If you're in Cornwall & a size 7 I've got shoes I can hide in an agreed bush for hubby to collect, like a geocache. But for shoes.

Thank you so much for this! I can remember it, and relate. Thank you.

Thank you! Nowhere near Cornwall sadly (different country, the travel costs would be prohibitive 😁)

I paid £12 for 14, 40mg tablets from MedExpress.

And I just take one tablet a little bit before leaving the house. It lasts for about 3 hours.

It's amazing!!!
Make sure you fill in the questionnaire in case you are on any other meds etc.

Op can your GP give you something to help you stay calm enough to get to the wedding in the short-term?

But you need longer term help. Are you able to get councilling or therapy on the NHS?

I'm guessing lockdowns during covid have made you loose the confidence that you had.
Get hairdresser to come to the house.

Not in UK, but will look into that. Sounds perfect tbh!

Not in UK, so no NHS. Don't think GP would come over, and tbh i've no money for them. It's a case of 'suck it up'.

It just takes the edge off and makes it manageable.
Things are so overwhelming and I go into sensory overload otherwise.

I wish you the best of luck

Thank you xx

Good luck Op. I hope you make it.

Sorry, i didn't mean it that way. I'm easily upset atm tbh. Not your fault at all. Sorry.

Go to the wedding. Let your brother know you are there, and give yourself permission to go when you want to. Knowing that you can leave may enable you to stay a little longer and, if it doesn't, at least your brother will know that you have made the effort.
Good luck.

I'm going, i probably will run right after the ceremony, but at least i'll have gone. Have a dress, my mate is giving me a coat. Need to dig out some shoes now.

Try reading claire weekes books.
Or watch her on youtube.

Op let the wedding be your new beginning. Could you try to keep trying to get out a little each day?

Op I really wish you well with this.

Good luck! You’re being really brave by going. You will feel so proud of yourself afterwards. As other posters have said take it one step at a time. Positive self talk too. “This is hard but I’m here, I’m doing it” “This feeling is just adrenaline nothing bad is going to happen” “This discomfort will pass”

Logically, i know that but trying to remember it when a panic attack kicks in is hard! I'm just telling myself it's only going to be an hour and it's really close to home. All i have to do is get through the ceremony.

Hope it went well!