Was he telling me to abort?

[notbindingbahy]

I had a friend I meet overseas and he moved to the uk (several hours away). Nothing sexual etc.

I've had severe morning sickness throughout my pregnancy and I'm bad about answering messages etc.

When I told him I'm really early stages (hadn't told parents/family) but sorry for the lack of replies I'm pregnant.... he told me to think hard about looking after the baby, education, housing etc. (for the record I have a good job, own home etc).

Was he telling me to abort? It was never part of my plan and I'm not "pro choice" for myself. What other people do is their business.

I've always felt that he was negative and needed to keep his thoughts to himself.

@notbindingbahy they won't be getting "free housing" they will be recieving benefits (UC) that will cover the rental etc costs. It's not free - they have to pay it out of their UC. If they don't pay it they could be evicted because they will have broken the terms on their lease.
One change of government and the whole benefit system could change and people might not get as much help.
Education (ages 3-19) is free but you have to pay for uniforms, equipment etc which means it isn't actually fully free.
Anyway.... it's irrelevant to your post. I don't think he was saying to get an abortion. It's the type of thing people say all the time "No fancy holidays for the next few years as you've gotta buy all those nappies" and other daft things.
People say that type of crap all the time.

@TeaKitten yes it's very clear that our paths wouldn't have crossed and that I don't know you.

Have a lovely evening.

This. You have options, even if you wouldn't consider them for yourself, he can talk about them.

Honestly though, not everyone's response to a pregnancy is positive, even for themselves. I don't think a congratulations is the automatic response.

For myself and several people I know it'd be very complex, likely bad news.