To not want to return to an activity group where my ex is

[Devondev]

I took a step back 2 years ago from a group where my ex was also. Have been getting on with things with a new group and gradually settling in. I keep in touch with those I was closest to outside of old group, but now that 2 years has passed, they're encouraging me to return, but I still don't want to have anything to do with him after how he treated me at the end, even though the others are nice people.

Am I being silly?

Of course not.

If you don't want to then you don't have too. Why would you put yourself in a situation that your not comfortably in. Its not silly. Your allowed to put yourself first.

They obviously miss you being part of their group, do you miss doing the activity with them or are you happy enough in your new group? Could you do the activity with your friends as well as your new group, but at a different time your Ex does? Or do you need equipment that's only available at x time?

it depends on how YOU feel. I have Ex's where it wouldn't bother me & others that it would.

I wouldn't like everyone watching to see how we are around each other much though!

Nah, keep moving forward is my advice. You've moved on. Meet people apart from group but also good to make new friends.

Yes, I'm happy enough with new group. Just worried about offending the others, but that's probably my people-pleasing tendencies, which I'm working on!

Please yourself... most people do.