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Obsessive neighbour losing the plot over leaves

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Sparkies2012 · 13/11/2023 20:40

Our neighbours are a relatively elderly couple and since they moved in have had a bee in their bonnet over leaves that blow onto their driveway. The gate to our driveway is opposite to their open driveway, separated by a narrow road. Our next door neighbour has a massive old tree in their garden that produces a lot of leaves, most of which fall into our driveway. We don’t really bother collecting the leaves, as it is an endless task at this time of the year, but the elderly couple is constantly on at us because the leaves blow across the road into their driveway and the odd one gets in their front door. Now we have told them we don’t produce the leaves, and they don’t bother us, so if they are bothered by the leaves either pick them up or take it up with our neighbour who owns the tree. But now they have even started collecting them in black bags and, under the cover of darkness, leaving them in front of our driveway gate, or throwing them over our fence. I’m tempted next time they do this to open the bag and dump it over their driveway again. AIBU by not picking up the leaves in our garden?

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CharlotteBog · 13/11/2023 23:43

Where I live it's:

Tree in public land - my house - my neighbour's house.

The elderly neighbour asked me if I could stop the leaves from the tree blowing into her garden.

Not even my tree and no, leaves fall in the autumn, we live in the countryside.
Daft.

Maddy70 · 13/11/2023 23:44

Just put them on their drive

Talkingfrog · 13/11/2023 23:47

We have a tree at the end of the street on council owned land. Always wondered why the leaves blew into our drive, but didn't seem to end up in anyone else's drive. I just put them in the garden waste. One day when we were working at home we spotted next door sweeping up the leaves in the road. Instead of picking them up and putting them in the garden waste, he swept the pile to the edge of our drive, so that the wind would blow them into our drive. One day I brushed the pile of leaves back in front of his drive and hasn't happened since, but doesn't mean it won't happen again this year.

VenusClapTrap · 13/11/2023 23:50

Oh dear. This is my DDad. Loses his mind every autumn.

IMarchToADifferentDrummer · 13/11/2023 23:56

Oh, Jewelspun, that is hilarious!! Even better would be, if OP knew approx what time they choose to drop the leaves on her property, to be hiding in plain sight in what appears to be a pile of leaves, and jump up at them when they dump the leaves - even more-so if OP could find something that would seem like the 'leaves monster' had green or yellow glowing eyes!!

Wellawkward · 14/11/2023 00:04

Personally, I think it's time for an autumnal photoshoot. Much tossing of leaves in the air and manically grinning whilst your partner snaps away...

IMarchToADifferentDrummer · 14/11/2023 00:22

It's time to get a recording of the grumpy old man from 'One Foot In The Grave' shouting, "I DON'T BELEAF IT" to play through your doorbell every time they pass by!
I'd save up a few of the bags then one night, maybe even Christmas Eve, when they're probably snoring their heads off, I'd be out there emptying all those bags right where they'd see all those glorious leaves when they got up in the morning!!

NewtonPulsifer · 14/11/2023 00:25

Make one of these with the leaves. In the dead of night, creep over and put it right up against their window staring right at them when they open the curtains.

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IMarchToADifferentDrummer · 14/11/2023 00:30

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Helentwinsplus1 · 14/11/2023 00:40

Don't worry, if he's anything like my neighbour he'll be out daily with his smelly, loud petrol mower and a pair of scissors before you know it. My husband is right, taking off and nuking the site from orbit really is the only way to be sure

Runnerinthenight · 14/11/2023 00:43

I don't understand this! It's not even your tree!!

We have a tree-filled garden - I love them! - and my neighbours don't. I know one of them isnt enamoured of our trees but in 25 years, we have never had an issue!!

I do want a leafblower though. DH thinks we should leave the leaves for hedgehogs... we do have at least one hedgehog in our garden. I am fed up trying to clear up the leaves come spring!

NewtonPulsifer · 14/11/2023 00:50

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Me too! The leaf people have come alive to get their revenge on the people bagging up their children. 🤣

FiveShelties · 14/11/2023 00:58

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 13/11/2023 23:16

Who the hell were the 4% of voters who think OP is BU?

The neighbours?😁

hoobanoobie · 14/11/2023 01:11

Next time one of them comes out I'd go with an "Oi! Come here!" Make sure they walk towards you. "See this tree over there? This is the offending tree, it is not mine nor on my property, I do not control the wind, but if you throw one more bin bag of leaves onto my property I will report you for fly tipping. Do not dare do that again".

hoobanoobie · 14/11/2023 01:11

Also point out the camera.

WearyAuldWumman · 14/11/2023 01:34

A neighbour whose front garden is 90 degrees to our back garden (but separated by a council verge and common path) constantly complained about our trees. Apparently, the moss on their lawn is because of our trees. nothing to do with the clay soil we have here and the fir hedge they planted at the southern edge of their lawn.

We do get them cut back every 2 or 3 years, and I've actually had one taken out.

One time I while I was heading out to the car, I saw that the neighbour was dumping leaves in my back garden. He didn't notice me - I only do a bit of supply teaching these days. I was quietly amused. Some of the leaves might have been from my dwarf crabapple, but the rest would have come from the council sycamores - they get everywhere.

I'm wondering what he imagined would happen to the leaves when the wind blew up again?

nozbottheblue · 14/11/2023 01:52

CatherinedeBourgh · 13/11/2023 21:18

As a gardener, I'd be delighted. Raking up leaves and putting them in plastic bags to leave for a year and make beautiful leaf mould is a drag, but worth it for the benefit to the plants.

I'd love it if someone did that for me.

^This!
Leaf mould is highly valued and they've done all the hard work for you. Smile sweetly, thank them and stack the full bags out of the way for a year or so until you can use them to improve your soil 😊Flowers

chappoi · 14/11/2023 01:59

Why are they putting bags on your lawn and not the neighbours. Surely they can see it's not your tree so leaves go to the tree owners rather than the neighbours

Rocksonabeach · 14/11/2023 02:08

WeekWeekWeek · 13/11/2023 20:57

“My security camera caught you dumping your rubbish on my driveway. Please don’t fly-tip again”.

Will scare the shit out of them.

This added with ‘do it again and I will re contact the council and you will receive a fine for fly tipping- not our tree, not our leaves putting a black bag and blocking our drive might also result in a car accident - again you will be liable and sued for costs of that happens ‘ and then mutter get a grip under your breath

Coldia · 14/11/2023 02:09

Spell out CUNT on your driveway using leaves.

Itwasafterallallaboutme · 14/11/2023 02:13

I am old, and I love leaves, particularly those on our deciduous trees. After a long winter you suddenly see hundreds of little buds on the trees, and as the days get longer and brighter they start to unfurl, then it seems like one day you go out and all the trees are fully robed in their glowing mantles of differing shades of green, with the occassional glorious purplely copper of the Copper Beech Tree 💜🧡💚

But all too soon the days of shimmering heat arising from the earth beneath our feet, and the sounds of bees drunkenly buzzing around our nectar filled blooms, turn cooler and fresher; but we can't be sad, because now is the time that our glorious trees prepare and dress in all their multi coloured hues of reds and yellows and orange for the seasons last great ball!

But there can be no prize for the Best Dressed Tree, as they are all magnificent in their own spectacular ways...

The following morning those stunning wooden masterpieces start to gently shed their sumptuous robes in the most mesmerising dance of the seven veils, one that Salome herself would have been proud of. Sometimes the dance can swirl and whirl for a period of life enhancing time, but sometimes it can be dangerously short - only through the vagaries of nature can the veils gracefully drop as if to the soft, redolent, and nurturing forest floor, or be whipped to a frenzy in more of a dance of the Tarantella than the tease of a sensual burlesque dancer. The resulting colouful, but sadly short lived carpet, is like a cosy and welcoming blanket that helps bring delight into this old lady's life.

The starkness and bitter coldness of our darkest months, throw into profile the sudden nakedness of those transcendant skeletal figures, and the bareness of their branches only serve to highlight and emphasise the differing seasons of these beloved, life giving, sedentary souls.

Thank you Trees, no Earth life could survive without you. You are Gaia's and our Nourishment - The very air that we breathe.
🌳🌿🍃🍂🍁

oakleaffy · 14/11/2023 02:16

Leaf us alone, you bullies!

Itwasafterallallaboutme · 14/11/2023 02:23

My wallpaper choice this autumn.

Obsessive neighbour losing the plot over leaves
OhNoOhNo · 14/11/2023 02:41

Whilst I agree the neighbours are behaving batshit, I have a somewhat similar issue as I have the corner house. Everyone’s recycling/rubbish ends up in my front garden and people eat snacks and drink beer cans around the corner and dump them in my garden.

i’ve taken the petty stance of dumping the beer cans and mini wine bottles and packaging on the pavement.

Let the fuckers enjoy walking across detritus, it’s not my job anymore to discard their rubbish.

Whiteday · 14/11/2023 03:32

Coldia · 14/11/2023 02:09

Spell out CUNT on your driveway using leaves.

GrinGrinGrinGrin

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