Dear posters,
Not going into it too deep. I have been having problems with my toxic sister for years, as we do not live in the same country, I have decided to stay away from her for a few years now. I don't like to engage with her at all. She lies and is very dishonest, the only people that she cares about are her children. I helped look after her children by paying school fees and financial help for years, they are all adults now.
I have been having problems with my land issues, now, I found out that she may have taken out a loan against another plot of land that I bought over 20 years ago, as well as renting out portions to at least four different people. I have asked her to give the land documents to my mother, however my mother has ways of siding with her. When I called to ask if she had the documents, she got upset, shouting that she is very ill and going to die.
My mother stated that she has the document and she will not give it to any of my employees or lawyers. I know that she does not have the land documents. When my mother is with my sister, she coached her to lie and she did not tell the truth. For the last four years, I have dedicated myself to looking after her and will soon move her to her own home where I will pay someone to be with her full time.
I feel so stressed as I recently had an accident at work and lost my job as well. Everything that I left in that country they have sold, I mean everything, including household stuff.
How to approach this with my elderly mother as her illnesses are caused by stress caused by dishonest children and grandchildren. My employee took her some medication this morning and advised me to limit communications with them.