Friend still hasn’t bothered to see 1 year old

[Millermillermiller232323]

I know this sounds silly and maybe even selfish but my little one is now 14 months old. And my so called best friend still has not bothered to come meet her.
i live just near London and she moved to Devon from Leicestershire (just before I gave birth) which I understand is far but it’s been so long.
she will visit other friends that we used to have in common but I am no longer in touch with due to having us mental health problems almost a decade ago and they decided to not keep in touch.

I have a few mum friends, great family
support system so it’s not like I’m isolated.

just felt a bit sad about it

she has a partner and a 7 year old

sorry for rant but feel at a stalemate

thanks

i am the same amd i don't see or keep in touch with any of my so called group of friends.

I have a so called good friend who hasn't bothered to come see my little one either, some people aren't worth it. Filter them.

And in 14 months you can't go and visit her?

Because my littlE one has had health issues (non contagious)

Friendships work both ways though.
Are you actually in touch with her at all? Do you know for certain that all is well with her? Assuming her 7 year old is in school, that reduces her opportunities to visit other parts of the country to school holidays. Or it could be that your friendship has run its course.

She is very socially active and her daughter is in school
yea we are in touch

Do you expect her to nip to London from Devon in between the school run?

It's hard when you have children, a job, there's distance.. Have you offered to meet halfway?

Yes I have

i just suppose I’ll focus on the people I do have around me

in terms of school run, there was the summer holidays

and she jet sets everywhere

usually we meet up

and it’s been since I had the baby

So have you spoken to her and offered up dates you're free in the hope she is also free and you can meet up?

If so I'd say that's all you can do and if she's not made the effort to meet half way and yet is meeting others then presumably she's just not that into you and it might be time to end the friendship.

Friendships change when you children, even more so when one does and one doesn't. It happened to myself. At the time I was upset, I was the first to have dc out of friendship group but now they have had children I don't bother with them that much. We still go out as friends occasionally without dc and sometimes will meet up with them but very rarely and we live close together.

Have you been to see her? Having a child doesn't stop you being able to travel.

Don't take it personally op. You are both at different stages in your lives. She's busy you are busy and you live a couple of hours away from one another. It's as simple as that.