Am I a mug or is she a CF?

[FineMom]

Friend of friend invites me to celebrate her bday by buying tickets with her and some other friends for an event. I crack on and buy my ticket months ahead coz i know they’ll sell out quick. Don’t really know others, but quite flattered I’ve been invited. A few days before event I text to suggest going for a drink before. She admits she and others haven’t got round to getting tickets. She quickly tries and manages to get one ticket. Day of event she calls with range of complications getting in the way of her going to the event. I tell her all fine and I’m ok to go alone. She then offers to give me her ticket so I can take someone else. I say ok let me know how much (expecting her to say “no don’t be daft”.) She says “I’ll let you know” so I say ok let me know your bank details. Went to event with friend who came at last minute. Ok - but not really my thing.

A week later she sends me her bank details. Am i a mug for buying ticket in the first place and then being “ nice” to her or is she a CF? Or is it just all good and I just pay her for the ticket? Also WWYD?

I wouldn't buy a ticket under those circumstances as she was a friend of a a friend and you didn't really know the others.

Your responsibility to part with your money under those circumstances.

Your friend needs to pay her for the ticket at whatever the price you agreed whether it be what she paid or more/less.

i'd have gone on my own and left her with the ticket

I think she’s a CF to be honest! Why would she not have got the tickets when it was her idea? I’m disappointed you shelled out but glad you got to go with someone. I think maybe take it on the chin and be wiser to it next time.

Yeah the birthday girl is unreasonable to expect payment - but unfortunately as you offered I think you should just pay at this point.

No! Don’t be a complete mug in life. Friend also said there was a group going hence why op got the ticket and then friend dropped out. Op owes nothing.

I think if she offered the ticket for a price and you agreed to pay it, then that's fine. You could have just said no thanks, or that you'd decided to go alone. Or asked if any friends wanted to buy a spare ticket, rather than you buying the 2nd one yourself. You could also have sold yours, if they sold out.

If she'd offered you the ticket with no mention of payment, then after you'd used it asked to be paid, that would be unreasonable imo.

It's a shame plans fell through, I suppose it's a bit of a lesson learnt that this group might be a bit flaky and to not be the first to shell out for stuff before others have committed, so you don't get left in the lurch again.

Which would be fine apart from the fact the op specifically told her she would give her the money for the ticket.
Op I wouldn’t want to pay her a penny. It depends if you want to stay in this friendship group really, if you want to continue being friends then I think you’ll have to pay the money like you offered to. As it is these sound like a bunch of dickheads who are not really your friends anyway

She offered to ‘give’ you her ticket so you could take someone else. You were the one who brought up money and offered to pay.

If that wasn’t acceptable to you, why on earth make an insincere offer to pay on the grounds that she ‘should refuse’, and then, when she doesn’t refuse payment, ask for her bank details?

I wouldn’t rush to pay. Let her sweat a bit