To leave myself jobless..

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Since having dc I've only worked low stress, cafe type jobs that worked round the kids. I've recently taken on a part time week job and it's so stressful. To the point I'm not sleeping, on my days off if the first thing I think about and most of the day, I feel sick at the thought of going. I'm suffering more panic attacks and am always unwell lately.

I can't put my finger on why.. everyone is pleasant enough.. I just don't fit in and don't enjoy the job.

I don't pay household bills. My old manager said if I left she would have a job for me at Easter.

Do I ride this out.. leave now.. or hope it gets better? My mental health has took quite a dive.

How old are dc and what type of work are you doing?
Why don't you have household bills?

They are 1 & 5, DH covers everything since I had my eldest. I take home around £8k at this job a year, he's on £80k + bonus

It's part time in healthcare

How long ago did you start?

How recently did you start?

I'd be wary of quitting a job just because of initial "homesickness" while you settle in. It doesn't sound like there is anything specific causing stress, just the discomfort of adjusting to a new role/place?

I started in August x

Why did you take the job? Did you have a longer term goal with it?

Sounds like the job isn't for you. I'd keep going with some kind of work, the longer you are out of the workforce the harder it will be to get back in.

You have a lot of working life ahead of you, including when the kids are up and gone so think of the long term.

@user1846385927482658 quite literally because it didn't involve any weekend work and I had previous experience, no other reason

I'd give it a bit more time. You haven't been there very long. It may not be right in the long term but it sounds like it's the first job you've had with any long-term prospects since having kids and it would be a good idea to get some experience under your belt.

I'd be extremely careful about leaving yourself totally financially dependent on your husband.

Stick it out.

Look at other things to support your mental health.

Give it more time. It must only be a day or 2 a week for £8k pa so surely you can get through those for a few months?

If it’s in healthcare I would leave as it’s not going to improve and it sounds like you are bringing the work home with you. You have nothing to prove to anyone.

I would look for something else first and then leave.

You have to keep at the back of your mind that if you split from your husband you would need a way to support yourself.

I would leave , you aren't sleeping and a job in healthcare is always going to be stressful .

I'd leave too.

Sometimes we just don’t fit, don’t beat yourself.

I have recently asked my ex boss to take me back (even temporarily it is something) x

Honestly if you as a couple can manage without then I’d leave. It’s not worth making yourself unwell for. Good luck