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To think I have grounds to contest this? Or is this it?

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fishfor · 12/11/2023 16:15

I am a single parent. Before I went on maternity leave I was in the office once a month on average. There was a general idea that we should try and go in if we could but I was never pulled up on it and everyone worked from home in this way, it was accepted. On maternity leave I was told this continued, even less office time than before with months passing sometimes with nobody going in. We all have teams etc and remote working is effective.

Since I was on maternity leave my manager left. Two new managers have joined, a couple of people have left in the team and basically it’s like I’ve gone back to a new company in some ways

Getting to the point.. my new supervisor is asking that I go into the office once a week. I am struggling so much financially and whilst I know this isn’t the company’s problem, I did not expect this when I chose nursery and chose to return to work with the company. It costs around 40 quid a time to get into the office as I have to drive to a train station, park, get the train and then a tram and pay extra for dc at nursery to stay late.

Not only this but I am under so much pressure to keep the house running and sort dc out etc with zero help from anyone else (dad lives 200 miles away and sees dc once a month). Do I have rights to refuse to do this? I am not saying I would never go in but this is totally different to how I was working for over two years before maternity leave. It’s not just the cost but the stress and organisation of getting to the office when it makes no difference to output of work. I feel like giving up.

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Allywill · 12/11/2023 16:19

What does your contract say?

ChristmasFullHouse · 12/11/2023 16:20

It doesn't sound like your DC being at nursery is much of an aspect in this so if you do discuss it, I'd leave that bit out - focus on what you'd be having to pay/ time taken, whether or not you had a DC (train travel etc). Otherwise they will think you're trying to change things purely because you now have a child to look after.

You're right it's not their problem, and unfortunately lots of people are facing similar. I think you probably have a right to have a discussion about it but not to essentially demand you only go in as you did before.

Do others have as far to travel and incur such large costs? Is it mainly nursery costs that make up that £40, as unfortunately that is fairly normal - to pay later hours because of work.

Bearbookagainandagain · 12/11/2023 16:25

The short answer is that if your contract says you are office based, they can technically ask you to go every working day. So check your contract, but I think unfortunately you'll have to comply, persuade them to let you WFH, or change jobs

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