To be a bit peeved?

[Grapefruitstars]

I don't know if I'm being unreasonable. My friend is unwell so we've been having her child a lot which isn't an issue. He's friendly with my child although they go to different schools. His birthday is a month before my child's. On his birthday mum told me they weren't doing anything. Today the Child told me he had a big party with loads of mates and my child wasn't invited

He came to my child's birthday party. Aibu to feel peeved we've been looking after him but they didn't think we were close enough to have him at his party ?

And to also add, I had friends from NCT who I am very close to and we did many things together with the children however when my DD started school, the parties were whole class parties and there was no room for extras, that’s just what we all did and no one was put out. Just because the parents are close and the children get along doesn’t mean they are particularly fussed about each other.

Erm my son is a boy ?

Was the child actually telling the truth? Because if he didn’t have a birthday party at all, a big party with all his friends is certainly something I can imagine a six-year-old making up.

You sound very nice.

Can you check it out?
If she lied, there was no need to.

I would be thinking she probably is using you too.

It's up to you if you want to continue being free childcare for her.

I cant imagine the child lying. I did think it was strange when she said they weren't doing anything. It is what it is I suppose.

Oh sorry

She's asked me for help again.

Tell her you’re busy. Let her find some other mug to provide free childcare

Having empathy is hard😅

If you believe the party did happen, then I think it was very poor your son wasn't invited.

It would be a hard swerve to being her free childcare going forward.

Honestly, I'd tell her "I understand from 'Johnny' that he had a birthday party and our 'Bobby' wasn't invited. TBH we found this a little painful as we've been helping you out with childcare quite a bit and Johnny was invited to Bobby's party".

See what she says. If you aren't happy with it, then stop or reduce the childcare. You're nice to help her out, but no point in doing it if it's going to cause you resentment.

Oh that's unfortunate that she needs help again as you have suddenly found yourself unable to offer free childcare anymore...she's a cheeky fucker. Say no you can't help anymore, she can sort her own problems out