I have SO MUCH ON. Normally I love going to meet with DP's friends across the country, but I feel overwhelmed this week.
I feel like I've not got time to keep on top of anything properly. I moved into a new house and area last month, so I've still got stuff all over the place to organise. My dog is about to come into season so is extra demanding. I haven't bought a car yet so am relying on public transport. Work has suddenly stepped up and I have four reports to write and then negotiate the project deliverables this week, on top of my usual workload. I have parcels to send to the post office and a deposit dispute ongoing with my last rented house. I have to catch up on my work course and am going to travel to London in two weeks' time for me and my dog to stay with friends (with a day's training and a Christmas party thrown in, both requiring more train travel during that time).
On top of all this, my DP, who is usually lovely and has been very helpful with my moving and with the dog (we don't officially live together as he owns a flat in a different part of the country, but he spends most of his time at my house) is upset because I 'never want to spend time at his place' and he says he doesn't see his friends enough. I am feeling stifled right now, and have encouraged him to go back to his and see his friends, but the main sticking point is I promised months ago to go to his friend's dinner on Friday (there's a deposit involved etc.) and I really don't want to go, because of all the stress of moving the dog to a new place (DP's flat, really not dog-friendly), yet more train travel, won't have time to sort out my own shit etc.
AIBU for trying to get out of travelling to DP's place for the dinner? I don't know how I'll make it up to him. It's very important to him to honour his social commitments and he will prioritise anything he's invited to. I just feel tired of splitting myself all across the country for this relationship and now I have my dog and new house to consider as well. I feel guilty but at the same time I just want to stay in one house for longer than a week and a half. Please help. I feel like a flaky, exhausted grump.