I wonder if I am a a crap daughter. My parents are married, in their early sixties, in good health, quite well off. I also have another sibling who lives an hour away and I live closer to them. My mum is always in touch. Everyday there is some form of contact. I feel terrible saying this as I know she cares and she loves ds very much (he’s 3). But it’s too much. They are both retired and what annoys me is that when they are away on holiday, out for the day etc they are reluctant to speak on the phone etc and will rush you off the call. However if they have any spare time I am bombarded with suggestions that I come over with ds or we meet or I drop off ds. Sometimes I just want to be left alone! If I say no, I get a follow up text suggesting something else… example, ‘bring ds up for dinner,’ … I say I’ve started cooking so I can’t… the response is ‘bring up the food for him to eat here.’
I know this sounds petty and I suppose it is, but I feel actual stress when I get a message. It makes me feel awful as I love my parents but I feel so claustrophobic. I can never say no and it be accepted. I’m not allowed to have a boundary. I even made up that I was doing some training for work the other week just to get some peace and quiet! I have tried talking about it but my mum will say she understands and then it starts up again a few days later. I’ve already had a text at 7am asking if I was coming round later… it’s like a holiday for me when they go away 🤦♀️Am I being unfair? Should I be doing more? I’d say we tend to meet once or twice a week most weeks.