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AIBU?

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Mumof2beautifulbabies · 12/11/2023 01:39

I feel my husband is trying to gaslight me. I love him to bits and think he is great, but there’s times like tonight where he makes me feel like all arguements an are my fault.
Long story but we were putting my dads chairs in our car to borrow and he was getting stressed. He snapped at me a few times so I snapped back.
I then drove a bit erratically home and he said I was getting stressed because of my dad and I needed counselling. Whereas I was annoyed because he can be so rude to me.
Wind on to tonight without the children and he’s saying that I have issues with my parents’ separating. I don’t, I think it’s all him as he treats me terribly. They separated 3 years ago now. He was quite rude saying they both use me.
He has said I’ve changed recently but to be honest I’m fed up with his behaviour.
whenever I said something tonight he said I was so defensive and I need therapy. Now I think though is it me. Do I need therapy? Any advice?

OP posts:
27icey · 12/11/2023 01:42

He is abusive.

Mothership4two · 12/11/2023 05:16

Do I need therapy? Any advice?

You may do, we don't know you. From everything you say/your perspective your DP is being abusive.

WiIIowT · 12/11/2023 05:23

So hard to know without context. How was he rude, what did he say? Why is he saying your Dad stressed you out? Did your Dad do anything?

Either way, none of that justifies driving eratically.

coffy11 · 12/11/2023 05:29

No hé's rude and gaslighting you and making you second guess yourself. But it's all him, who does he think he is?

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