Wondering if any other Mums waiting for older DC to come in from night out right now?!

[JellyKingdom]

Nightclubs don't close until 4am here so it will be at least 4.45 before my DC is back. I can't sleep but will try doze soon! It's the worst! Think it's made worse because there was no gradual build up due to lockdown, nightclubs shut and I had a 16 year old, they opened and I had a nearly 19 year old so no in between stage of rules for the first nights out!

My eldest is 14 so not there yet but dreading those nights already!

Have they a good set of friends? I think that makes a difference as they should stick together

24 year old has just come in. Bed, here I come!

Yep. Dc are just in their way back (together)

I totally get it btw. I have a 20 year old who's had so little socialisation!! No GCSEs, no AS levels, fuck all rites of passage!

PITA at home and needs to move out to have the edges knocked off - but that hasn't happened either!!

Yes me too. 17 year old on their way home. But no way can I sleep until he's indoors!

I'm jealous of your DC coming back at a reasonable hour! At the risk of sounding older than my 38 years, why can't the clubs shut at 2am like they did when I was young!? But then I remember we'd usually end up in someone's house afterwards and that was until breakfast time, I guess there's a bit more 'supervision' in the clubs and town centre! So far DC and friend have always called it a night and travelled home together with friends parent giving a lift(I would do this too and have offered but not been taken up on it!). I do think the friend probably wanders off through the night though but probably keep checking in with each other.

I knew I'd struggle with this phase bit definitely think the lockdowns had an effect on this.

Mines just come home so I'm in bed now, thankfully.

I was but just got a text to say she's staying out so can go to sleep now. First nightclub experience "It was shit" apparently.

I thought they said we’d get sleep once they turn 18 😭😭😭😭

you dont ever stop worrying! I always had an inbuilt alarm clock which would waken me an hour before the clubs came out. i would get up and have a coffee and wait for the phone call from daughter or son (we lived semi- rural from town and taxis did not like travelling there because they werent allowed on street pick up in another area) then I would just throw on jeans (nightie tucked in to jeans) and put coat on to collect them! right up till they were 22/23. didnt mind at all

I never waited up for mine, because half of the time they ended up crashing at a mates.
Which was preferable to them crashing round the house and waking me up.
I used to know if they hadn't come home when I woke up on a morning because I didn't trip over shoes and the kitchen was how I left it.

Anyone under my roof has find friends on. I sleep and check if they’re home if I wake up, but 10 years into the independent years now and I’ve inured to it. I go to bed at normal time, try and remember to have my phone on and sleep through.

Just in bed having collected dd off the bus. She was in Dublin tonight so got the last bus home & it's a 1.5 hour journey home on the bus. She could get a taxi home from the bus stop but it's a 5 mins drive from our house & I don't sleep well when the kids are out anyway so I don't mind flying down to collect. She's 25 and I still worry.

I so wish I'd found this thread last night! My daughter went to London Friday night for the weekend for her best friend's 21st, she hasn't really had a slow ease into all this either due to lockdowns! We live in a small village, the nearest town is 6 miles away with very little public transport and certainly no late busses!!! The town is a quaint little one where not much happens.....so I've been awake most of the night imagining all sorts especially with all the protests and clashes. I finally got a rambled message at 4.10 to say they were back at the hotel. It's been horrendous! It didn't help that Friday night she told me she was back safe and sound at 1am, she then stupidly told me yesterday that wasn't true she just knew I'd be up all night worrying, which I told was a silly thing to say to me when I still had Saturday night to get through!!!

She's my sensible one too, when my 16 year old starts going out I think I'll need medicating

I don’t wait up. My middle son had a job in a bar that shuts at 5am from age 19 so he got he used to coming in late.

My youngest is the only one left and was out last night. I check the ring doorbell in the morning to see what time/state he got in. Early one last night (2 something) as he starts a job this afternoon.

Yesterday morning as I was getting up at 5am to have my first espresso of the day I bumped into my 23 year old just arriving back from a night out. We politely said good morning and went about our day/night 😁