Girl husband works with, seems very close to - don’t know if it’s reciprocated but seems to have a crush on her. When I first saw them together at work he would message me after with weird things like oh she loves your style/dress/looks up to you. Just felt weird.
They Have been speaking on Snapchat outside of work. I’ve told him this is inappropriate (he’s her superior, like he’s her f’ing boss). Said he’d speak to her and stop communicating on there. Has not. Still going on. Recently she’s been messaging him late at night (anywhere between 11pm and 1am) when he’s asleep and his phone goes off subsequently waking me up as I’m a very light sleeper. Same thing happened again last night. I asked him to ask her to stop messaging so late at night and it’s disturbing me. He said oh is that what is sarcastically (of course I’m jealous you have a crush and aren’t listening to me??) even so I get pissy when other people message and his phone buzzes on the nightstand as it keeps waking me.
He gets up in an arsey then said he was “going for a drive”. Disappeared for 3.5 hours into the early hours of the morning. Eventually I rang him to see when he’d be back and he said he’d come home now. Gets home at 2am and when he’s asked outright he said he ended up going to see her (she’s having some boy troubles apparently but lives with her parents). Apologised that he may smell of weed but said he’d not smoked it and I know she does - whatever, don’t care.
Has played dumb all night and day, what’s the matter with you??
I’m obviously pissed off. Is this unreasonable??? Is this appropriate??
he also said to our LO earlier mummy and daddy aren’t hugging right now (LO told him to give me a hug), asked again what’s wrong and I said like you don’t know? Then he said mummy doesn’t want daddy having friends wtf??
happy to hear others take on it but go easy on me please.