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Am I too sensitive re my mum and my parenting

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gahsl · 11/11/2023 20:34

I feel like she never has anything nice to say about how I raise my children ( 1 and 3 ). I feel like she always feels like she's the mum of everyone and needing to check in doing things right.

Examples the last few days :

' make sure you cut his meat for him properly. When I was cutting it for him for his lunch '

Looking absolutely shocked / angry and appalled when I was giving my DS medicine today, which he doesn't like taking- so I had to force him to take it. It's not nice, no, but he has to take this medicine. I've had to do the same with my DD. They cry and wriggle around, but it has to be done. She as asking me what the hell I think I'm doing and looked really angry at me and quite disgusted really. I told her she can try later and she had the same result. Unfortunately it's challenging to give a child medicine when they don't want it.

It's just every little thing. We were walking around shops the other day with the children and she said she was tired and wanted to sit. But she refused to actually sit, because she thought I was going to lose DD in the shop. She wanted to walk right with us to make sure we didn't lose her. I let DD walk not holding my hand for a very short period of time in the toy shop, to allow her the freedom to look at what she wanted to look at. But I literally stood right near her and was walking really closely to her and often even holding onto her hood. I understand the concern and I guess it comes from anxiety which I also feel, but it's still annoying.

Sometimes I don't know if I'm just being a bit teenage about it all. Not wanting to be told what to do or something.

But equally I just get the impression she thinks I'm pretty rubbish as a mother.

I'm sure if I could read her thoughts she's thinking I am doing it all wrong and she was so much better."

OP posts:
00100001 · 11/11/2023 20:36

You did well by asking her to do the medicine, keep doing stuff like that she'll stop.

So the meat cutting, ask her if she'd like to do it... Say, then she can hold DDs hand at all times in a shop....

Do similar every time she mentions something...

Stephy1024 · 11/11/2023 21:40

Or just tell her politely but firmly that these are you're children not hers. And you'd appreciate it if she kept her opinions to herself unless asked.
Your not a child anymore and you don't have to let her treat you this way.
I'm sure your an absolute wonderful mother.

Squeaky2023 · 11/11/2023 21:58

Spend less time with her. If she asks why, tell her.
She needs to wind her neck in and to support you, otherwise, you need distance from her. She doesn't sound very nice.

ShineBright1209 · 11/11/2023 22:06

I can have similar issues with my mum, especially since becoming a single parent. My go to now is along the lines of you did things your way and I do them mine, it doesn’t make any of our ways wrong but just different.
When I moved recently she tried to tell me what colours I could paint the rooms and what I could/couldn’t do in the house. When I told her that if she wants to pay all my bills then by all means she can have a say but until then it’s my house and I’ll do what I like she soon stopped.

TheShellBeach · 11/11/2023 22:09

That all sounds very irritating.
I'm sure you're doing fine.

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