Just looking for people's thoughts on this. Have been split up from abusive ex for nearly 5 years and going through a stressful custody battle which is still ongoing ( has hit the kids but I've withdrawn contact for the last year). Whilst going though old phones for evidence I found messages in which he demanded sex in return for looking after the kids now I'd completely forgotten about this as there has been so much physical, emotional and psychological abuse that I would be here all night trying to explain it all but it triggered other memories but I'm not sure if they are assault. One thing he would do when I'd had my first child is in order for him to look after him so I could get some rest is I would have to give him a blow job but then still have to settle the baby and sort everything before I could go asleep. Other instances and this was quite a few especially towards the end and I was planning on leaving so hated him, hated to be touched by him so would try and avoid at all costs but sometimes it was unavoidable so would agree to sex as I knew what the consequences would be if I didn't. I've heard the whole consent by force isn't really consent but not sure if this is it. In arguments when he would physically assault me he would often grab my breasts quite forcibly to embarrass and hurt me , one time he grabbed me by the vagina and pulled my pants down whilst I was pregnant and trying to get away from him. I've gone through cbt and have self referred for some further therapy as I feel I need to work through this but from an outside perpespective woild you co sider theses things sexual assault? Sorry about the length just needed to get this off my chest x