Family fall out…….

[Lifesforloving1]

Hi all !

looking for some advice please. I’ve had such an upsetting week & has made me physically ill from all the stress and worry !

I will give you a bit of the story…….
Theirs always been some sort of bad energy between my partner & my mums partner…. They are both quite similar in some ways - and both quite fiery & quite a few situations have happened over the years. Last Saturday evening my partner was having a few beers and stupidly decided to message my mums partner saying he has some issues ( not the right time to do so ! ) which he now regrets… things started escalating & got into a big row.
To add - my partner has storing his digger & trailer on my mums land.
my mums partner decided to drag my partners trailer & digger across the felid in temper and leave it at the gates for my partner to collect - doing this caused nearly £1000 worth of damage and more upset than what was needed.
police got called ( by my partner) and because it was on his land nothing could be done. obviously everyone was fumming & my partner was sending messages & phoning my mum’s partner as he refused to pay for the damage.

my mums partner is now saying this is harassment… ( which it is ) but only because he won’t pay ? I feel absolutely terrible and beside myself with worry that the police are now involved? Can someone please tell me if this is likely to go anywhere? My family never get into trouble with the police ect….. things have now calmed down & they have both left it lie. I feel terribly in the middle & I really don’t know what to do? Do you think the police will look at this and brush it off as a family fall out ??

Your partner sounds like a dick, sorry.

So does your mum’s partner.

I doubt very much the police will be interested, they are both acting like silly children.

any way you can extract yourself from this toxic situation?

Everybody behaved badly and no one is going to pay the 1000 pound damages other than insurance if you have it.

Also you absolutely are the kind of people who have police involvement as the police have been involved die to the absurd immaturity of both the men.

Your partner's massive gob has gotten him into this situation. Your mum's partner may also be a bit of a dick but his reaction was predictable.

In what way are the police involved now? Has your mum's partner reported Mega Mouth for harassment?

Why would the police care? It’s a ridiculous fall out between 2 stupid men. Your partner is an idiot.

So your partner starts it, and then declares HE is the victim and calls the police? What an idiot

As long as you are not seen to support this twit, hopefully it will calm down. I hope he is leaving your poor mum alone when she has done him a favour!

They both sound like idiots, but your partner kicked it all off, so is the bigger idiot. The outcome is his own stupid fault

What's your mum's opinion on all of this? You said it was her land that the equipment was stored on, so did she support her partner in moving and damaging the equipment?

They both sound awful but ultimately your mum's partner damaged the equipment, so he should pay for the damage he caused. There is no excuse for destruction of property. No matter what words were said.

Not sure how this could he resolved otherwise. There would always be resentment from your partner that he had to pay £1000 in damages caused by your mum's partner.

For the sake of family harmony I hope he pays up and everyone can move on. Otherwise it could get awkward with your partner not wanting to attend or host anything involving your family.

Your partner is an idiot BUT your mum’s partner has caused criminal damage to your partner’s property and really needs to rectify this because it is an offence. Your partner needs to apologise and mean it.

Your partner has a cheek having such an attitude wit) them given he is storing his equipment on their land. Serves him right. Also he had a drink and did this, so seems like he can't control his alcohol too.

They are both idiots.
That does not give the excuse to cause £1000 of damage to someones property.
Mums partner needs to pay for repair. And your partner has to store his stuff somewhere else

What does your mum say?

Your Mum’s DP is doing your DP a favour and DP think I know what I will send this bloke who is doing me a favour abusive messages. He is a dick.

Your partner is a dick. He should apologise

Both partners sound vile, but frankly this is your partners fault. He picked an argument with people that were doing him a favour. The partners reaction was extreme but arguably not entirely unpredictable depending on what your partner said. Expensive lesson for your partner.

Your partner is a twat

Thanks everyone, you’ve made me feel so much better !! 😔😔