Wetting the baby’s head

[Isitmeorhim123]

Baby is almost 4 weeks old

husband has gone out with the lads to the pub to wet the baby’s head - ended up going back to one of the lads houses.

its now almost 4.30am and he’s still not home - I’ve rang him and he’s not arsed at all. This is the norm when he’s out with the lads - comes home at stupid hours of the morning but it’s different when you have a toddler and newborn at home I think.

he’s also going to the match tomorrow which means he’ll be in bed all morning cause who know what time he’s going to get home then get showered and out to the match.

AIBU to be totally fucked off by this?

Totally selfish of him. Tell him he needs to share the load with you more.

Yanbu, what a selfish twat

This is the norm when he’s out with the lads - comes home at stupid hours of the morning

I'm afraid that you may be in for a shock. It may be different for you now that you have a baby, but it may not be for him. If this is his norm, did you discuss how it might need to change before having a child?

Sorry if this sounds harsh, it isn't meant to, and he is being unreasonable. It was totally predictable unfortunately.

Is this rare or does he have form for this?

You say this is the norm. You might want to have a chat with him about life now that you have two kids or you end up doing it all by yourself when he is partying and in his hobbies.

What a selfish prick 😒I would be upset too OP.

Did he change when you had the toddler?

Not that it's your fault, at all - he's absolutely unreasonable - but I suspect the answer to whether he's likely to care that you are annoyed or just do it again lies in whether he changed when you had the toddler, or whether he sees this as absolutely fine.

DH went to wet our baby's head when he was 12 weeks old - but they had two pints and came home. Turning it into an all-night bender seems remarkably selfish, and a bit odd if you're celebrating a baby.

Perhaps he thinks it won't impact on you much if he'll be off to the game today. Is that a foregone conclusion too? Does he go every weekend?

It sounds like you carry a LOT of the load here, but it's obviously just a snapshot of one weekend in your life...

He hasn’t been out with the lads for a long time but when he does this happens. He came home at 6am - lost his key so I had to let him In and then toddler woke up just after 6. I’ve had 2 hours sleep as baby was very fussy over night bless her. Football always seems to come first. I went for tea with the girls this week was out for 3 hours max and couldn’t tell you the last time I seen them before that or when I will see them next.

'Wetting the baby's head' is a few drinks of celebration when the baby has safely arrived (often the same night when mother and baby are still in hospital and father has been to see them). Not an all night bender a month later.

He's taking the piss OP but it sounds like this is a recurring problem.

If he hasn't been out for ages then I don't think I'd be as bothered tbh but then being out all day too is a bit shitty.

You're both entitled to time off but I'd be talking about how often and what the plan is. If he wants to get pissed then he can stay at a mates so he's not waking you up.

This is why I won’t have a relationship with a guy who considers himself a ‘lad’ or is heavily into sport.
If this is what he has always done, it’s what he will continue to do.

My husband did this 21 years ago when my ds was one day old. I still bring it up now!🤣