We had booked our in laws to babysit for us to attend a party.
My youngest is tricky overnight and we're not at the stage she's able to sleepover so we'd arranged for them to come to ours at bedtime.
I've just had a call to see if we can change the plans.
They have their other grandchildren over their house half the week as my brother in law has split from their, mother but doesn't have a house of his own, and his girlfriend lives too far away for their school etc.
One of the cousins is dealing with some anxiety at the moment and has pulled out of a family gathering with the Mums side, so now needs to stay with our in laws. I'm assuming my brother in law has plans and has asked if they can watch them.
The cousin won't come to ours (we all live close).
So they've suggested my father in law take my oldest and the cousin for a sleep over (they get on really well). And my mother in law comes up ours to watch the baby.
Sounds lovely, and they are amazing to be so considerate... But...
This means my father in law would have to do my eldests bedtime which involves more than one medication, and it was mentioned could he go without for the night? (that'll be a no).
But I feel bad separating them all too, for my mother in law to come and watch the baby.
But also 3 of them all together at their house is probably a bit much for them especially and tea and bedtime.
So we're thinking of cancelling our plans.
But then I know my eldest would love a sleepover there, as he doesn't usually get to go because there's often not enough room for him. But it also kinda feels like well if you can't have both, then it's a faff to pack eldest up and ship him off.
My gut is saying he should go because he'll enjoy, but I'm also low key fighting the urge to just not bother and do something just us as a family seeing as we're cancelling our date/party invite.