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Puppy problems

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Dilemmadilemma23 · 10/11/2023 13:35

Reaching out to see if anyone been in similar situation and can offer advice.

Earlier this year we tragically lost our dog at 18 months old. I was devastated. We were struggling without having a dog in our lives and knew we had so much to give so got a puppy 6 months later. We went for different breed.

It’s been a nightmare. She’s not settling down and is destroying the house and will not stop biting us. We have a one to one trainer but nothing helping.

I’ve also recently been diagnosed will an illness that makes life challenging. I haven’t bonded with this dog as I thought I would. I do everything for her but I miss my previous girl. I can’t stop crying and find each day hard. My partner thinks we should re home her whilst she is still young but I feel so guilty and like I have failed her. I also want it to work. I’m not sure what the answer is.

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SuperSleepyBaby · 10/11/2023 19:50

We have a stair gate on the kitchen door and our dogs are allowed in the living room and kitchen. We keep those areas clear of things they can destroy

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Dilemmadilemma23 · 10/11/2023 21:24

GreekDogRescue · 10/11/2023 19:43

YABU for buying from breeders when shelters are full of rehomeable, house trained and healthy dogs.
And now you want to add to the crisis by rehoming your dog.

Thank you for judgement and lack of understanding. . My beloved dog who passed was a rescue and I’m an experienced dog foster carer. I don’t have to justify to you but my experience has made me fearful of having another rescue.

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Dilemmadilemma23 · 10/11/2023 21:44

SuperSleepyBaby · 10/11/2023 19:32

Both our dogs were nughtmares when little - biting us, destroying everything etc - I regreted getting them for a while!- they calmed down as they grew up a bit. They are only mildly annoying now! They are both terriers.

Thank you. I am pleased they are calmer. I have experience of lots of breeds but not terriers!

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Teentaxidriver · 10/11/2023 21:51

Lots of great advice on this thread. We have now had our DDog no 2 for 12 months and I was thinking to myself today how very very hard the first year is. Sending you a hug and solidarity. You must do what you think is best. Don’t torture yourself but maybe hang in there (but only if you can).

feelingalittlehorse · 10/11/2023 22:32

Sorry you are having such a terrible time, and I’m very sorry about the loss of your other dog. 💔
Honestly, have had three puppies- and the second and third, all I could think is “oh god, why can’t you be like my older dog/dogs”. I regretted every single one of them at least five times 😂
Puppies. Are. The. Worst.
Genuinely; I absolutely adore them all. They are now two wonderful adult dogs and one getting there … 😬
I have no experience of borders, but my friend does. They are stubborn little buggers but all of hers have turned out to be great little characterful dogs.
You sound like a great owner, who has checked out a bit, probably due to the underlying grief and the comparison of the two dogs. I think give it time, and be gentle on yourself. ❤️

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