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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To wonder why some men do this?

59 replies

TurkeyTeethLookAwful · 09/11/2023 22:46

And yes, I know not all men do this but in my experience it is always men that do it!

I work in a professional job, and speak many times a day to people in senior positions in businesses throughout the UK. I have an accent from a city in the UK that's probably quite a distinctive accent.

At least once every single work day, I will get at least one male customer on the phone who, when I call them, mimicks my accent in their initial reply to me when I say hello and introduce myself. These are different men all the time; I don't have regular customers as such.

It even happened to me at passport control at a UK airport recently. The man scanning our passports asked where we'd been and why we'd been there. I replied and he then mimicked my reply in my accent.

AIBU to think it's fucking rude and disrespectful?

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Vegemiteandhoneyontoast · 10/11/2023 14:22

Yeah, that would piss me off too, OP. It's pretty shabby behaviour.

I'm originally from Birmingham and still have a bit of an accent, but it's there under the surface and comes roaring back if I talk to someone from the area. On a camping holiday a while back I got chatting to the couple at the next sink in the washing up area and they were from Birmingham, so my accent came out. I said to 'Oh god, you're making my accent come out' and the woman said 'That's because we're influential' in really strong Brummie and we all fell about laughing.

octoberfarm · 10/11/2023 16:36

Ooh, I live in the US (born and raised in England) and people do this all the time - it drives me absolutely bonkers. To be fair over here it's been men and women alike but honestly I find it so rude 😂

Onethingatatime23 · 10/11/2023 16:40

I copy accents unintentionally and I hear people picking up mine in conversation sometimes! Mimicking to poke fun is not on though.

Birdcar · 10/11/2023 16:58

It's patronising.

I can't imagine them doing it to men for fear of the reaction they might get.

5128gap · 10/11/2023 17:27

Being 'funny' is important to a lot of men. They love nothing better than someone laughing at their jokes. Unfortunately few have a talent for it and so just end up being irritating and/or causing offence. Women don't seem to have so much of their self worth tied up in how amusing they are so don't feel the need to try to be a comedian.

Aprilx · 10/11/2023 18:05

divinededacende · 10/11/2023 13:47

So, I'm Weegie and my accent is mimicked or commented on all the time when I'm in England. It's never bothered me but I would say it's mostly by men and mostly in pubs/night out settings. I swear to god, the amount of times I've been asked to say "burglar alarm". My DP is from Devon and the second time I visited, I had a couple of their friends repeat half the things I said because they thought it sounded hilarious. I mean, I get it to some extent, a Weegie can make asking to pass the salt sound like a battle cry but after the first couple of sentences, it wears thin.

I think men are generally more easily amused which is fine but it means their output to others can suffer the same low standard. I feel like we're getting better but a lot of male communication with other men is still based on "what can I find to take the piss out of?" when there isn't any other obvious common ground.

Maybe that's a London thing @Aprilx? It's more of a melting pot there so maybe accents aren't seen as particularly worthy of comment?

You lost me on Weegie. What on earth does that mean?

EmmaDilemma5 · 10/11/2023 18:08

I'm going to guess you're from Birmingham?

divinededacende · 10/11/2023 20:00

Aprilx · 10/11/2023 18:05

You lost me on Weegie. What on earth does that mean?

Haha! Sorry, I just assume it makes sense. I'm from Glasgow.

IhateHPSDeaneCnt · 11/11/2023 03:31

I'm so sorry OP. My husband does this in every sort of environment i.e not just work. E.g we are lucky enough to have lovely neighbours from all over the world and English is usually their second or one of their many additional languages! Anytime we have an interaction (and without being aware) he'll start to mimic / mirror their accents. It's mortifying. I kick him up up the bum every time.
Unfortunately, I have a feeling that your main interactions are work related and over the phone these idiots feel free to hide and be racist in plain site. Keep a log - you never know; when you're in a position of power you can always say something along the lines of you weren't impressed with their interpersonal skills!

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