TW- abortion

[Peachyscream]

I know this isn’t the right place to write this but I’m posting here for traffic.
i am booked in for a surgical abortion tomorrow morning. I don’t know what to do with the “remains”
I think it’s heartless to have it disposed of in the hospital…I quite like the idea of burying it at home with a tree or rose bush to mark it. I am 9 weeks (not my choice to leave it this long, due to my medical issues I wasn’t allowed to get a pill through bpas and it delayed the process)
My husband thinks it will cause emotional trauma for me to do this, and I’ll be unable to move on if I do.
Advice please?

I actully think burial in the garden near a rose bush is a lovely idea. Not sure why it would be problematic, I imagine it would bring closure.

I wished I had asked for the remains of mine (similar 9 weeks), but I was a teen and the hospital never broached it. Will only be a tiny bean, so you could use a nice pot with a rose. I wish I had had counselling afterwards as well, it was a very conflicted decision for me. Certainly felt grief for what might have been, even though it was the 'sensible' decision at the time.

Wishing you well @Peachyscream. Try to ignore those questioning your decision, in my view not appropriate as not what you were asking for help with.

Be gentle with yourself.

Perhaps burial in the countryside could be an option? Do you live near a national park? Where you can return to visit any time?
I know there’s probably rules prohibiting usual burials there, but at 9 weeks post conception? I doubt there’s any rules about that.

Thank you everybody for your replies. They’ve been very helpful and understanding. I think I will do as @Alltheyearround and other pp have said and get a planter.

@Diolchynfawr i do, but I wouldn’t want to risk it. Nice suggestion though

Gentle hug 🌺

If this would bring you closure I think it’s something to do. You can discuss your wishes with the staff.

I am booked for a surgical abortion. I have been asked to take a Mifepristone tablet before the procedure to soften my cervix. Did you have to do this? If so, what was your experience? X

Sorry to be an ignoramus but is there any protocol in Islam around miscarriage? Could you apply that to this sad situation?

I'd worry a little about a planter. Safer to bury in the ground, although if you moved, you'd need to consider that.