Manners on a train

[Mnetcurious]

Have people forgotten common decency in considering others on public transport? On a train journey home from work of just over an hour, woman next to me has been scrolling TikTok for the last 20 mins with sound on. Volume slightly muted but still loud enough that I can hear what’s being said when it’s dialogue, and when it’s music it feels louder than that.
I’ve experienced this a few times lately from ‘youth’ on the train but this is a middle aged woman. It’s infuriating to have to listen to.
AIBU to feel that if people are using sound on their phones in public then they should keep it to themselves by wearing earbuds/headphones?

Tell her to turn it down.

Oh I'm with you OP! My ear pods have been a god send when travelling on public transport, mostly to drown out anyone that doesn't use them! Along the same lines, I can't stand it when people play music out of their phones with no headphones whilst walking down the street..

YANBU - either tell them to turn it down (you might face consequences) or get up and sit somewhere else.

The bus driver told someone off for doing this the other day.

Usually not possible to move elsewhere on a packed commuter train and why should I have to move just because someone else is being inconsiderate? I didn’t fancy a public spat, some people can be very aggressive when challenged, even politely.

It bothers me, but I’ve always wondered why. When two people are sat having a conversation we don’t expect silence- it’s not a library. Why should a solo traveller remain silent? I get the social aspect, but not the logic

Because a conversation is tolerable. Shit tik tok videos are not.

I was on a flight, recently, and a woman was just playing music on her phone without headphones. When did people become so selfish and unaware?

I wear headphones on public transport because it's better than listening to other people's inane conversations and tiktok videos

My dislike is when some parents let their children watch things on the iPad for the whole journey. I don’t want to listen to Bluey non-stop for hours.

There was just a child sat with a hamster in her hands. Ragging it around, putting the poor thing on her head, in a box thing and holding it upside down while it was in there.

Nothing surprises me anymore.

i would lean over and try and watch it with her, that will annoy her and embarrass her

Exactly this, background conversation is generally at one volume level and pace that can be tuned out. Scrolling videos/reels etc is a constant assault on my audio senses.

If she was next to you you should have leaned right in and watched and asked her to turn it up a bit. I bet she'd have switched it off quick smart.

The other day someone was sitting behind me in a quiet carriage (long distance train) watching something with no headphones. I turned round and said 'excuse me have you got any headphones?'. He immediately looked embarrassed and turned the sound off or stopped watching.

Asking politely won't always work but I'd definitely try.

^^This 😂

Seems to not only being limited to public transport. I was in a restaurant last weekend and a preteen was playing some teen horror movie at full blast. Her parents were most put out when the manager requested that she either use headphones or turn it off. They were even more put out when the manager told them that otherwise he would cancel their order and escort them to the front door. She was made use headphone sharpish.

Guy on a train the other week got a full house on train annoyance bingo.
Played music loudly
Spoke to his pal over the aisle swearing loudly
Feet up on seats
Vaped (!)
Then picked his nose and wiped the debris on the seat.
I thought I was on one of those covert How long until someone intervenes programmes until I realised he was just a twat.

Did the train have windows??? ..... I'm not even joking..... social bloody media on any volume just absolutely makes me so angry....YADNBU

I find saying ‘excuse me, everyone can hear that’ with a smile makes people switch off or use ear buds immediately.

I used to tut and scowl. But that did absolutely nothing.

I would have asked her to turn it down. I've done this before and no one has got shitty with me, they've just turned it down.

I think that some people don't even realise that it's bad manners and/or are just a bit thoughtless.

Actually this is really good because it's assertive enough but if they choose to be a dick about it you're not saying anything to them that prompts a response. It might well be genuine thoughtlessness at times rather than deliberate rudeness.