To not see want to have play dates?

[whatsabeep]

DD moved nurseries and we still see one of her friends from the old nursery regularly..but I don't like the kid at all. She's so so rude especially to other adults including me which I don't like DD seeing. Her mum has little control over her and doesn't do much with her, except to see us so if feel bad stepping away but I don't enjoy the play dates at all. Dad mostly works abroad. They constantly ask to meet up and are even talking about applying to the same primaries, even thought they live at the opposite end of town.
DD really like this girl, AIBU to slowly reduce contact?

Reduce what contact? You don't seem to have any? What's the relevance that dad works away? Other then mum has a harder time?

Oh I see you are still seeing them, yes just reduce

If your DD really likes this girl I would put up with it unless your DD is copying bad behaviour

OP has said they have play dates.

OP I'd gradually ease off from having this child round.

Once your child goes to school they'll meet lots more children

Maybe the child will learn manners when with your DD

@TheShellBeach read my next post?

@Whiteday
We see them a lot and are constantly asked about our plans. Or they invite themselves to whatever we are doing.
The relevance...dad is a much firmer parent, mum thinks four is too early to learn manners. Yes I appreciate dad has it easier, but mum allows kid to watch tv/be on iPad ALL day unless they see us.
Mum is lovely and I do feel for her but I also can't hold my opinion in when her kid speaks to me like I'm a piece of shit

@Thesunsstillupthere
Yeah she does start copying it eventually and the other mum then makes me feel overbearing for not putting up with it . DH and I both primary teachers, he has commented on how rude this girl was to him in our own house.

Don’t be as available or open with your plans. Do they see other families for play dates? If not maybe it’s because of her DD’s behaviour.

If going to the same school is a worry for you then either be vague with your preferences or tell her them in reverse order. If they do end up at the same school then the teachers will not tolerate her DD speaking to people rudely.

@Frozenone
No they don't, doesn't like anyone except my DD. Which worries me a bit if they did get into the same school as DD is very sociable and gets on with anyone. Recently DD has been saying things like she will only play with one person and excluded a friends very very lovely DD when this friend turned up also.
I am so torn as DD really likes this girl but so many aspects of their parenting I find difficult. Also this kid would just be plonked in front of the tv all day otherwise

It wasn't there when I read the first post though.
Sorry.

@TheShellBeach
Yes I hope so, tho DD has plenty of friends, thank you