DH and I are butting heads over decorating costs.
FWIW, I do all forms of mental load and arrangements for our house: so if there’s ever an issue, I will find someone reputable, arrange them coming over, sorting it out and telling DH about it. If the person comes over whilst he’s home, he won’t even greet them but stay tucked away.
I have found a decorator / labourer I like the work of. I know who they are, who their wife is, their address and social media presence. This is important because my parents had lots of work done and were scammed out of £80k+ by cowboys and liars.
This guy showed up on time, was easy to talk to and provided a quote which I’ve gone back and forth on and haggled with. I think the price is reasonable. It isn’t the cheapest but it isn’t anything outrageous. He has managed to fit me in in a week too which I’m grateful for as I want the work done ASAP (as does DH).
DH is annoyed by the price because he thinks it’s too much. DH has no skills in this area and no experience. We spent double the quote recently on a holiday, and we will spend the quote amount on another holiday in 6 weeks time. We can afford it but obviously we didn’t plan on these costs in our budgets.
DH says I need to get 2 more quotes because you “always get 3 quotes”. In principle I understand but I’m not willing to go with someone else because I don’t know anyone else to trust. I won’t use the services of the other quotes and I won’t use it to low ball the man, who has already reduced the price with some haggling. The person has work and is busy so it’s not like he’s desperate and I don’t want to disrespect him.
its ironic as DH works for himself where he is at the high end of costing but says he’s worth it and it’s his time they’re paying for.
YABU - you should get more quotes
YANBU - just go ahead if it’s reasonable and you’re happy