If man comments, that you "are being a skivvy"

[thehighwaywoman]

Someone said it to me yesterday. A man who is a friend. Whilst I was wiping the sink down in his kitchen (because it was grubby and I have to use it).
I am staying with him currently. Not any more than a friend, ever.

I can't help but feel like I've been insulted but I don't know why.
Am I unreasonable? I know it's an historic term for a woman doing a menial task.

I didn't mean to have the voting thing. I'd rather someone just added their thoughts. And I know it's not the most pressing issue but I find it very hard to understand where people are coming from.

Set him on to a 'man' job then call him a skivvy

I think he perhaps embarrassed that he flat is t clean and was making a crap joke?

I suppose he might mean 'you don't have to clean my house'

He's telling you to stop cleaning his house

In most threads here when a woman says she's cleaning for a man, 90% of posters tell her not to be a skivvy.

His house and he is telling you to stop cleaning!

How does the sink normally get clean? Does he do it or does he employ a professional "skivvy" be ause it's beneath him? Big difference.

I'd take that as him telling you you shouldn't be doing that

I'm not cleaning for him I'm cleaning for me. So that I can feel ok using things like the bathroom and kitchen - in fact apart from the room I sleep in these are the only other rooms I feel a need to be clean before I can use them.

But yes, I get he might be saying don't clean up after me and missing the point that it's not for him!

@Schlurp it doesn't get cleaned!!!

It’s this. He’s saying “don’t be a skivvy (servant), you don’t have to clean my house for me”. It’s a way of saying he thinks you’re demeaning yourself by taking it upon yourself to clean when it isn’t your job.

What he doesn’t realise is that you’re not cleaning the sink because you think you’re a servant, but because you find it too dirty to use!

Yeah he’s saying no need to clean up after him! Probably embarrassed at the mess.

Yes agree with @FictionalCharacter he’s trying to be nice and say don’t bother...doesn’t realise that you find it too dirty to use!

I think you're overthinking
Take a chill pill