Basically this morning my husband had come in from his night shift and spoke to me in a way I found rude and he says is just being truthful. I get that when he comes in from night shift and is tired/I have just woken up and am in the middle of getting the kids ready for school etc we do sometimes clash because we’re both in different states of mind/tiredness and so on but this really annoyed me this morning so I want an outside opinion! I asked him about his shift, he told me, he nicely made some breakfast for me and him while I sorted the kids and then as we sat down to eat I started telling him about how the kids’ bedtime went last night - they hadn’t gone to bed until late and then I ended up staying up late too because of that - and he basically cut me off and said he couldn’t hear about the bedtime routine stuff right now because he wasn’t in the mood and wanted to eat. I just found this so disrespectful and rude. I listen to how his shift went etc, I was just relaying how my evening went. Surely he should just listen even if he’s not that interested? I raised this briefly with him when he went up to bed, said I was unhappy with him speaking to me like that, and he said from his point of view he’s just being truthful and unless something really out of the ordinary happened with bedtime he doesn’t want to hear about it. We’ve had this clash before where he just doesn’t want to hear about the kids’ routine stuff etc and I do understand that he’s just come in from a long shift and is tired and so on - but AIBU thinking he should just listen to me? Or is he justified in saying he just wants to be truthful and not have to talk if he doesn’t want to?