My DH and I generally have a good relationship; we have two young DCs and he is generally speaking a good husband and father. Historically, he has had issues with low mood, depression (resulting mainly from childhood trauma) and stress at work, which could sometimes (prior to having DCs) result in him being moody and insulting towards me. over the past few years has made a conscious effort to improve on these things (and has sought out therapy etc) and I have noticed a significant difference. This is all for context btw. My AIBU is this- I have had an eating disorder (anorexia/ restrictive habits) from the age of 12 (now 32) which, at the moment, is well managed. I'd say it has been under control for a good 7 years, although of course it will never truly leave me and at the earlier stage of our relationship, (mainly due to the effect my DH's moods were having on my MH) I did relapse and so he is well aware of the issue. Whenever my DH has had a particularly rough day at work, or if he is suffering from low mood and I raise this with him, or whenever I have an issue with his mood and the impact it has in the home, his default reaction/ response is 'you are feeling this way because you are f*cking starving yourself' or 'try eating something and you'll not be so moody' etc etc or other upsetting references to my disorder. I should add that I am a completely normal weight and am not engaging in any restrictive behaviours whatsoever, but it does seem to be his go to reference when confronted about his behaviours. Tonight, for example, we had a silly row over nothing and he asked if I wanted a meal he was making. I simply replied 'no' and his response was 'there we go, starving yourself,' when in reality I had already been out for a late lunch today with a friend. He cannot seem to realise how hurtful these comments are to me, and I deeply regret ever opening up to him about these issues I had in the first place. AIBU to be so triggered by this?