Dd hysterical when trying to get her to Pre school

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Dd is 5 and at pre school, she’s bright, confident and outgoing, has lots of friends at Pre school, friends from on our street etc. She was ok there until a few weeks ago when she started saying she didn’t want to go and getting really upset at night. She said she kept getting her *Work wrong and the teacher telling her off and telling her it was wrong. I may have posted about it, I’m not sure. I ended up speaking with the teacher who said my Dd cries because she doesn’t want to finish her work as she only wants to play. Dd tells me she gets told off if she does the wrong colour etc and that she doesn’t understand what to do (she’s learning the language, we live abroad)
Shes just been on school holidays and was due back today, she’s been saying during the holidays she doesn’t want to go to school. She got dressed today and it seemed ok, we were just getting into the car to go when she got hysterical, very very upset and was saying she didn’t want to go. I didn’t know what to do, I was trying to make her go but she was really so so upset, it felt quite traumatic. She ended up staying off as I couldn’t force her like that. Tonight she’s got all anxious again and said she doesn’t want to go ever again and hat she keeps getting angry when she’s doing her work (Dd getting angry at herself) as she keeps doing everything wrong. I’m noticing her confidence slipping away, she needs to go to school but I’m so worried about her, what do I do?

Of course children that age do lie, but more likely is they just have a different experience/interpretation of reality than adults do.
The teacher might feel she is just instructing or correcting your DD, your DD is experiencing it as being in trouble or told off.

Children that age don’t lie but definitely misremember. The teacher is probably worried because she’s not fluent, misbehaving in activities designed to build school skills, and might even be causing anxieties in the other kids. You need to sit down with the teacher and agree a way forward. She’s right though - part time nursery only benefits kids who can speak the language because the assumption is parents will plug in the gaps. Kids whose parents don’t speak the language fluently need to be fully immersed in the language they want to learn.

@JustAMinutePleass Why would my Dd be causing anxiety in other kids?

Which country are you in? Teaching outside of the UK culturally can be very different, although here at five she'd be in reception full time doing phonics, handwriting, topic, science, maths and homework at 5, so those expectations would be higher.

@SgtJuneAckland A European country

What happened this morning, did your child go into school or refuse again?
I hope she wasn't as distressed today.

May I ask what steps you're taking to help her learn the language and become familiar with local culture?