Is she for making this request to the headteacher?

[emkana]

A mother I know at school has put a letter in for the headteacher asking for her dd2 not to be allocated to the class of Miss X when she reaches Year 1, the reason being that when her dd1 was in Year 1 she had Miss X and this mother feels that Miss X and her dd1 didn't get on. There was one incident which the mother feels Miss X didn't handle well, and the mother feels Miss X wasn't sensitive to her dd1's needs where the work was concerned.

I'm just wondering if the headteacher is likely to accept such a request, as it will have repercussions for my dd2.

how? why? what repercussions?

No

Well because our dd's are friends it means if the headteacher accepts her request then my dd2 will not get Miss X in Year 1 either, because our dd's will want to be in the same class and generally they aim to keep friends together. And I really like Miss X.

Not sure, but I think it depends on personalities a lot.

Eg, my DD2 had a particular 'key worker' at nursery. They did not get on at all. I asked for her to be moved in her second year there.

The next year, DS wass allocated same key worker. They got on like a house on fire...

well...
you can request miss x anyway.....
you can say nothing and see what happens....
you can give miss y a go if you think being with friend is most imp thing for dd....
you can talk to your friend and persuade her of the gorgeousness of miss x....

emkana!, been trying to email you but my servers playing up and can't send or receive atm, did the video arrive?, i posted it last wednesday, fingers crossed it got to you!

Yes lucykate I got it thank you so much! A card is on its way to you!

That's funny because at our primary they often split up kids who have been close in nursery!

phew!!, have you watched it yet?, i saw some as it was taping, it looked really interesting

(sorry for hijacking!)

I expect the Head will plan her staffing for next year according to a wide range of criteria, and your friend's request might come a long way down her list of priorities.

Ah, I might be in this other mothers poition in a years time!

If the mother really dosn't like this teacher, it could make life really uncorfortable for the family(and the teacher). Her dd2 will probably have heard negative things about this theacher from her dd1. Weather the head agrees or not is another matter.

Hmm... depends on what the teacher's actually like, tbh.

If you really like her, that's great, but I have to say my sympathies are with your friend - my elder brother had one teacher who took offence at his very existence (he has very mild cerebral palsy) and constantly insisted he should be in a 'special' school, when he was allocated to the top group she argued against it as he wasn't 'normal', she would pick on him for the slightest misdemenour/imaginary offence and made his middle school years hell as she had him for at least 1 class a week. My mum only found out about what she'd tried to do many years later when she became good friends with the then head of the school.

So consequently I was in her form class and she was lovely to me until the minute she heard my surname. "Not related to XXX, are you?" she demanded with a sneer on her face I recall to this day. When she found out he was my db, suddenly I could do nothing right and I too had a hellish year before I moved on a class.

So if Miss X is a complete bitch like that, then your friend is not at all unreasonable and good on her for making sure her other child doesn't suffer!

(of course, she may be wonderful, I don't know, but Mrs Bitch was wonderful to other children whose faces fitted, so you never know...)