Sorry it’s a moaning one about DH.
he’s just had a huge rant at me for being upstairs all evening while DS was downstairs giving him a hard time. DS has a condition which makes him want to eat constantly and also argue relentlessly when told no. Usually DH and I are a decent team. I get up first and get DS ready and dress him ( sometimes getting beaten up a bit in the process) he takes him to his childcare on his way to work. In the evening DH collects from childcare and DS vegges infront of tv till I go through the pantomime of putting him to bed. Nobody cooks for anyone else. DH always does whatever he wants for himself. I feed myself and DS carer sorts him out in the week. I do all cleaning and shopping and life admin and appointments etc but DH works longer hours. DH has a much bigger and nicer room to sit in and watch TV ( I basically live in my bedroom because DH has the sitting room)
anyway today they come home and I’m on my phone to a relative and then I carry on with some work I need to finish. Eventually I get his aggressive thundering up the stairs and DH shouts at me for ignoring him and DS ( they’ve been back only an hour) but apparently in this time DS had driven his father mental with the food badgering and arguments and then I get a load of shit about how expensive the childcare is and why we’ve not got any money ( I pay the childcare- every penny and still contribute the same to other finances as DH but he chooses to drive a nice car so that’s where his money goes. I get bus and train everywhere and almost never even ride in the car. I’m fed up with this lifestyle, I put up with having no friends, no social life no gym, no hobbies etc and im having to leave a meeting early this week to travel 2 hrs to go to parents evening even though DH will be back and less than 2 minutes away because he doesn’t do things like that.
I appreciate that I'm blessed to never have to do school runs or cook for anyone but I have given almost everything of myself up and have to live my whole life in my bedroom because we don’t like sharing space, now im getting yelled at for not hearing DS and intervening. Its the first time I’ve heard him raise his voice or we’ve argued in well over a year but for some reason I absolutely hate him right now and just want to walk away from the whole thing. But there’s no way I could cope with DS and there’s no way I can leave him so there’s no choice.