My husband works 7 long days on and 7 off. During his work period he comes home to sleep but is otherwise fairly absent. I work a 4 day week and have the kids (youngest 4) on the weekend he works, from 4pm until bedtime and my day off. He can’t help much on his week at work so I do everything. The problem is on his week off he has space when kids at school/nursery to catch up on jobs/relax/do sport. I almost never have a day to myself and it’s taking a huge toll on me. I do it because with everything being so expensive it is helping with the finances. He’s been offered a job closer to home with a different work schedule which would make a huge difference to me and this problem. He doesn’t want it as it would mean he has to do some night shift. I feel so disappointed that he’s only taking his own preferences into account and doesn’t see how hard I’m working to keep everything together. I’m tempted to reduce my hours to give myself a break during the week since I’m solo parenting every second weekend. I can’t carry on like this.