Second thread about him in 24 hours. Please bear with me.
I've spoken to social services this morning in regard to exh seeing our son.
Exh is an abusive narcissist. Called the police about him recently. Got him blocked on everything except an email address.
Exh wanted to see ds tonight but as I am not ready too see him yet, I have suggested next week would be better instead - through email. He has not seen ds for 10 days and has only seen him a few times since September. We have no arrangement for childcare so I am not breaking anything by saying he can see ds next week instead.
Exh has replied that he doesn't want to see ds until all our other things are sorted and he is going to take me to court for the following:
I was given a house through a housing association (very lucky I know) and it was in a terrible state. At this time, things between exh and myself were good. He came to view the house and offered to do it up for me. I did not ask. I did not have to pay him for labour (I offered many times but he declined) just materials.
The work began and over the months I thought I saw a real change in exh. He was in therapy and looked to be sorting his issues. We decided that we would give it a year and then he would move in if things were good. He carried on doing the work - this did take up all of his time. It was a lot of work. He also paid for odd materials which again, I never asked him too. I always said no I would pay….but as we were getting on I thought it was ok. He also paid no maintenance towards our son at this time too. But there was no issues at this point.
I then moved into the house and exh started to stay here on occasions. I bought a bunk bed for my step son too stay here (exh son). Exh had some belongings here and he also set his sky tv account up here and his broadband.
Soon after I moved in, exh was back to his old abusive ways. He left me and asked for his stuff and gave me back his keys. It’s been shit since then and I’ve had to call the police . He will not leave me alone and is a nasty piece of work.
I will have many text messages saying that he wants to do the work for free. That he is going to class it as his home. His son classes it as his home.
We are still married. Not filled for divorce yet - too scared too. He is not on the tenancy or bills apart form the sky tv.
He is now demanding I pay him money for all the labour he did on my home and for the materials he paid for. He is threatening to take me to court if I don’t pay.
Apparently he spoken to citizens advice and he has a good case.
Anyone advice? So sorry this is so long. It’s all just another threat. I know I was stupid for letting him do the work in the first place but please believe when I say, he is very very persistent and persuasive!