First dance

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This isn’t me it’s more DH we married 15 years ago, during our first dance BIL and his fiancé joined us uninvited on the dance floor. DH brings it up and feels it was bad manners other family members said how nice it was of them to join in. Who’s right?

Yes look at it as a positive just wanting to celebrate with us. It’s not as if DH or me are dancers or performers. I’d rather dance in a crowd for fun and DH isn’t a big dancer at parties. I guess DH saw it as our special moment and someone intruded on it. The dance was lovely but I didn’t look
at the guests as had I have done I’d have felt very shy. If we’re both honest once we were joined by everyone for the rest of the disco we could relax more.

It’s pretty pathetic that your husband is still stewing over this 15 years later, who cares?!
Whether I’d be annoyed at the time would depend rather on when they joined you. At the start would be poor manners but halfway through is very standard. I think couples joining the newlyweds on the dancefloor about halfway through the first dance has been the case at every single wedding I’ve been to..

That's a shame

You two could've piled in and done the Macarena 😁

I’m with DH. It was very rude of them.

You don’t join until you’ve been invited.

Like two couples (you two and BIL) got up to dance at the same time.. or he joined in after a while? - a few seconds or longer?

We didn’t do a first dance or any dancing but I’ve noticed that the parents of the bride normally join in after a short while.

I had never even heard of a "first dance" at a wedding until a few years ago after reading about it on places like Mumsnet.
I have to say if I had been at a wedding 15 years ago I wouldn't have known the etiquette about it and that I was meant to wait.
(but tbh I would have been hiding behind a wall so I wouldn't have to dance....)
15 years though......he really needs to get over it 🤣

I always thought that the first dance was a way for the bride and groom to start the dancing at the reception, and couples are then to join them at the second verse, usually other members of the wedding party. More often than not other couples won't join, as its a bit of a photo op. More recently its become a bit of a moment, and I've even seem some couple do rehersed showcase dances (a bit ott for my taste).
Is he related to me op, my family are spectacular at holding grudges too.