Social media comments and relationships

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my boyfriend is commenting on a few girls profile pictures saying stunning of beautiful. These are girls that he may meet at his local but are friends of friends.

Me f44 and boyfriend m47 been dating for 18 months and lived together for 6 months. He says he loves me and we get along great generally. Last few months we have both been busy and tired and sex has not been as active. Few arguments but not relationship ending. We Work different patterns and been unluckily with periods of ill health.

I gave been looking through social media and found my boyfriend has commented on a few particular girls profile pictures stating stunning or beautiful. There was another girl he stated lovely top and eyes emoji. They haven’t responded to him but I can’t see everything. I know they are part of the local pub regulars, the pub I hate and don’t go there with him.

It just upsets me that I have found this. He has given me no reason to think he is unfaithful and I felt secure but why comment on girls profiles? He doesn’t hide me but we don’t interact on Facebook much or declared we anre in a relationship on there - both says single - and if I tag him into something it doesn’t really appear on his profile. His excuse is he forgets to account or doesn’t want a recent picture of him on Facebook as he has out on lots of weight.

I should confront him but I would have to admit I have Facebook stalked his profile. The other week I jokingly asked if he still fancied me and he said of course, loves me to bits.

Any advice?

You live together but are both down as single on social media??

Can I take a wild guess that he moved into your place?

He sounds vile I wouldn't tolerate a relationship where he was chasing other girls by leaving those kinds of comments.

if I tag him into something it doesn’t really appear on his profile.

Because he is hiding that he's in a relationship.

And what on earth do you mean "stalking" his profile?! You live with him and have sex with him but you aren't allowed on his fb?

Please do yourself a favour and grow some self esteem and kick him out.

@Wavescrashingonthebeach nope I moved to his. Planning on buying together so saving up lots.

Yip we didn’t really feel the need to make anything Facebook official in our 40s

I am not too sure he is chasing.

@Wavescrashingonthebeach i mean I was looking at his friends list and clicked on a girls picture and saw what he had commented. We are friends on Facebook. We have been tagged in photos and posts but not recently

This isn’t ogling unobtainable celebrities or models - he’s sharking around Instagram for women who are completely obtainable and who he knows. If he was doing this in the pub it wouldn’t be acceptable. I don’t see how it’s different on social media.

"Dont need to make anything facebook official in your forties" sounds like a him line.

Personally I'd dump, he gives me vibes of being the local sleaze.

You're right that he wants to appear single. Bet he is "fun" and used to be a "Jack the Lad" 🙄 Just no.

He's a sleaze. Would be a total turn off if my DP was doing that.

Sorry OP, but if my OH was commenting 'beautiful' or 'stunning' on other women's photos he would be very, very single very, very quickly.

@ToadOnTheHill no that’s a me line. I never have and don’t really see why I should on Facebook.

people always comment how he speaks highly of me. I just don’t understand why. I said this evening about people commenting on posts and he didn’t say anything.

If the shoe was on the other foot, and you were telling blokes you know down the pub that they were “hot” and “fit”, do you think he’d be fine with that?

He’s making himself appear interested and available. I mean, he really genuinely is. He’s not posting photos with you, he’s not posting that he’s in a relationship, and he’s posting comments that make it clear he finds the women attractive. I wouldn’t tolerate this. It’s absolutely gross and disrespectful.

There's a reason why he's acting like a single bloke...

SLEAZY. ugh. no way I'd put up with that

Yep, sleazy

Do you mean women, as in, his own age? Girls implies younger…
in which case you have a 40 something, commenting on young(er) women’s pictures, pretending to be single.
sleazy

@Nevermind31 no it’s people similar age. They live close and in same village