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Hi just looking for some sound advice regarding partner who has a female friend that honestly makes me feel uncomfortable she phones him regularly ok I can accept it I have male friends too who I text back and forth just a little catch up and have known these guys since I was 15 now 35 all moved on kids etc this women that keeps contacting my partner is also married however she's now phoning him while she's half cut (drunk) asking for lifts of him! where do we draw the line with having friends of the opposite sex I have obviously brought this up with him and he doesn't see it as a big deal so I'm now questioning whether I'm over re acting or not? It would be interesting to hear form other women and their opinions on it :) just for the record he didn't pick her up that night as he was with me we have been with each other for over 2 years now and we're very happy together and trust each other 100% he has known this women and worked with this women for a number of years.

Would it be a problem if it was a male friend?

I would have an issue with a friend of either sex expecting me, or my dh to go out and collect them from a night (or day!) out, yes.

Surely adults make their own arrangements? Which might include a partner picking you up, if pre-arranged, or even a parent or an adult child, but random friends ? Nope.

Nooo it wouldn't but in all the time we've been together he has never had one single phone call from any of his male friends asking for a lift. They obviously arrange their own transport without relying on my partner

where do we draw the line with having friends of the opposite sex

trust each other 100%

clearly not.

@JustTalkToThem why do you feel the need to he so rude 🤔

I trust my dh. He trusts me. We are quite comfortable with each of us having friends of the opposite sex.
However if either of us had a friend who expected us to go out at night to give them a lift home, when there was no emergency, just an adult taking the mick, then that friend wouldn't be a friend for that much longer. Because that isn't what friends expect of each other. It crosses a normal boundary.

Obviously in some sort of emergency situation, either of us would help a friend out in a heartbeat, but this isn't that.