To feel bad about not spending NYE with daughter?

[DatingMum6838]

So I have always spent NYE at home with my daughter since she was born (she’s nearly 8) because she’s the first person I wanted to see when going into the new year.

This year I’ve had a few invites to parties and part of me is tempted because it’s a nice opportunity to get dressed up, etc, but the other part of me feels so guilty and like I wouldn’t enjoy myself because I would feel like I’m missing out with my daughter.

AIBU?

My mother always went out and left me with babysitters, and I thing good on her for having fun.

I don't think you'd be unreasonable to go out, or to stay in.

Who would look after her if you went out? Does she stay up, would she be expecting to stay up and have a little party with you?

Family would be looking after her. She has autism so doesn’t fully understand the concept of NYE - she would understand something important is happening but wouldn’t expect me to be there or anything like that…

YANBU to want to go out

When DD was little, up to around 16yo, I would host nye and she and any friends she wanted to iinvite, would join in. It was a v family friendly group, but it worked really well for us. Can you do similar?

If there's someone to look after her who she'd have a good time with, I'd say go. Have a good time!

I loved NYE as a child, parents went out and Granny babysat, we stayed up late watching tv and eating rubbish - a real treat, we loved it.

In our house Christmas was all about family and the kids and NYE was for the adults. I absolutely loved having that time after Christmas to relax and be with my friends.
I think it's good for kids to see adults having a separate social life.
Go for it and have fun!

Christmas is for family NY is for friends is what my mum always said

My parents used to say christmas was for children and new year was for adults.

Didnt scar me.

Od rather dd was home, warm and sleeping and fresh for NY

I'd go out, but FaceTime her at midnight. Unless she's asleep, obviously.