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Should I go?

10 replies

HungryCuckoo · 04/11/2023 18:46

Having major mum guilt. Meant to be going out this evening to a once a month event that I've been really looking forward to but DD2.5 has been under the weather for a few days now, relatively bad cough, marginally raised temp (ie not over 37.9 and today not even really considered a fever at no higher than 37.3), snotty nose, generally not feeling well. Today only she's had reduced appetite, though managed ice cream, bit of toast, some raisins, some blueberries. I'm a SAHM and she does want me over DH though knows I'm going out and it will be daddy who comes if she wakes poorly (she has past two nights - slept with me Thurs night from about 9:30 and with me last night between 8:30 and 2am, when she wanted to go back to her cot.

I would like to go - evenings out have been few and far between. I won't be drinking but don't drive so am reliant on someone else to get home. However, I feel awful at the thought of her waking and being distraught that I'm not there. I would be leaving her with DH, her dad. This would usually be fine - it is the fact she's ill that is bothering me. Would you go?

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TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 04/11/2023 18:48

Yes, go.

It’s one evening.

Lochness1975 · 04/11/2023 18:50

Yes go, dad and dd will be fine

GodDammitCecil · 04/11/2023 18:52

Yes, go.

She needs to have a lovely bond with her Dad, too. This is one way of building that.

BCBird · 04/11/2023 18:52

Yes go. Dad is there

survivalmodemum · 04/11/2023 18:52

Completely understand where you are coming from, but I would go. As you say, evenings out are rare. Your little one will be in safe hands with her Dad.

Notimeforaname · 04/11/2023 18:53

Go. Child will not be traumatised from having one of her parents with her.

jays · 04/11/2023 18:53

I’m the biggest sap on the planet. I cry over inanimate objects. A lot. You should go. X

Morechocmorechoc · 04/11/2023 18:54

It depends on how distraught she would be. Can't comment without knowing how bad. If she's ill and going to scream for 2 hours then I wouldn't go unless you are close by and can get a taxi home if needed. If she will cry for 10 mins and go back to sleep then go

Notimeforaname · 04/11/2023 18:54

I cry over inanimate objects.

Totally off topic but wondering about this. 🤣Any examples?

HungryCuckoo · 04/11/2023 23:29

Thank you all - your replies honestly gave me the push out of the door I needed. I went and had a fab time and all was well at home.

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