DH never wants to do anything on weekend

[Teandtoast1]

I WFH all week so when it comes to the weekend I am dying to go out. I wake up early Saturday and I’m ready to go. DH just wants to stay at home.

What does your DH do all week - does he work out of the home?

Surely the obvious compromise is one day out together and one day at home (although nothing to stop you going out without him if he's just pottering doing his own thing).

Go out without him? I work outdoors all week and just want to chill at the weekends.

He works part time so is at home all week with me too. I just want to get out and about with the kids. Then if I say right I’m going out he’s like what on your own while I’m stuck here all day by myself.

Just go out without him. It’s what I do.

Just tell him you're going out anyway and go. He can either come with you or stay home with the kids.

Just go without him, but make it clear he can come if he wants so he can’t really complain.

Does he literally want to sit around at home doing nothing or does he have hobbies etc that he does at home?

If you want to go out then go out. He can't have it both ways. I wfh all week but wouldn't want to be up and out bright and early every Saturday. Sometimes yes, but I like a chill as well sometimes as I've worked hard all week. Do you not get yourself out midweek evenings to break it up?

If I said I was taking the kids out all day leaving DH home alone, he’d be made up!

So he wants you and the kids to stay home with him as well? How old are they? What do you all do all day? What do the kids want to do?

well I’d go out without him, hopefully he’ll get FOMO and start joining in. I am the one who organises 90% of our weekend activities and my DH has the choice to join in.. 98% of the time he does and has a great time. Some people are just naturally more introverted. I WFH too and I like to be busy!

Start going out without him. My dh prefers to stay home. I don't so I go out without him mostly. Sometimes he'll come when it's a bigger day out.

Where do you go? Would it help to plan in advance so he’s prepared rather than just say ‘right, I’m going out’? I’d find that a bit stressful.

I hate staying in the house at the weekend! DH would never leave the house if he had the choice. I 'make' him during the week so that he gets some exercise, but everyone should be doing what they want at the weekend IMO. Quite often DS2 and I will go out, while DH and DS1 (his clone) stay at home.

Are you desperate to do things as a family, OP? I get that, but it's not fun if someone really doesn't want to be there.