A relative always sends me a birthday card exactly a month after my birthday, I’ve never mentioned it and just thank her for the card when we speak. Didn’t think it was a problem, we don’t see her very often.
Today she rang, spoke my DH as I was working, and said she’s visiting our area a few days before the date she thinks it’s my birthday and she would like to take us all out for a meal as a treat. She made a comment about it being nice to celebrate my birthday (although that’s not the reason for the meet up, it’s just a coincidence).
My dilemma is when we meet up for this meal do I pretend it’s my birthday coming up in the next few days or come clean and tell her my birthday was a few weeks ago and she’s been sending me a card on the wrong date for years!
YABU come clean and tell her my real birthday date and that she’s been getting it wrong all these years
YANBU pretend you haven’t had your birthday yet and keep up the pretence (we have young children though and I’m worried they’ll say something!)
Both options don’t sit right with me so please tell me if there’s a better way I can approach this that I haven’t thought of yet!